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When did we stop greeting one another with “Hello” and instead start with “Are they all from the same Daddy?” referring to someone’s children.

As it happens that is a normal, seemingly reasonable, ice breaker from some strangers. And they will ask it regardless of whether my husband is there at the time or not.

I take this question in good spirits as it always makes me laugh. However, the funniest part is that the people asking the question never find it amusing at all when I respond with “I don’t actually know who their fathers are”.

They react with such shock, horror and judgment that they are often too overwhelmed with these feelings to be able to laugh along with me – or reflect on whether their question was an appropriate line to start a conversation with in the first place.

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Somehow they find my joke inappropriate yet believe their insensitive question is acceptable. Why is that?

Rollercoaster Of Effort

Relationships are a heck of a lot of hard work. Think about it – picture everything we put ourselves through when embarking on a new one… the time, money- not to mention the emotional roller coaster ride! I really couldn’t put myself through all the effort to be able to attract multiple partners – even the mere thought is exhausting to me!

So yes, all seven children have been fathered by the same man Karen, because in case you haven’t noticed, I couldn’t land a new partner in my stretched out breastfeeding tee, sweatpants, messy hair, face full of overcompensated makeup because I try to hide the fact that I haven’t slept in years. Oh yes, and I haven’t shaved, I should mention that because as we all know, one of the first signs of being in a fresh relationship is that you can actually be bothered shaving… it’s ok though because these sweat pants are the only things that fit me, and they hide it all quite well.

It’s Actually Funny!

I wish the people asking these types of intrusive questions could see the funny side. Maybe if they could see their expression change so dramatically when I stir the pot with my silly reply, they would get the joke and be less mortified at the idea that I didn’t know who fathered my children.

If you are captivating enough that you can attract multiple spouses, and you are organised adequately to manage new relationships, then good on you! Personally, the concept of a new spouse seems like far too much of a challenging exercise for me to endure – they’re just such high maintenance! Realistically it’s just another lunch to pack, dinner to make, occasion to celebrate.

Do I really have the time to start that all over again multiple times with this many kids? And would I be expected to organise a birthday party for a man just because he was one out of the many different fathers I had scored for my kids? Because that really does have the potential to send me broke – seven kids birthdays PLUS each of their daddies! I couldn’t afford so many men, emotionally or financially.

These are all the thoughts and questions that run through my head every time someone asks me how many dads my little ones have.

Thanks For Asking!

On one hand, it’s a massive compliment that people think I am capable of such great feats. But alas no, I have just the one daddy of my children who I have hard enough of a time entertaining, but thanks for asking!

Oh yes, and before you suggest one of the thousands of weight loss solutions you’ve seen on social media Karen, that giant fat roll of mine is actually baby number eight, by the same father, boringly.

Whoever would have thought that one man could be capable of fathering so many children with the same woman? Then again, whoever in their right mind would ever start a conversation with the question of paternity as an icebreaker…

If you were ever asked”who’s the daddy?”, how would you answer? Tell us in the comments below.

  • I’d answer by telling them it’s a sperm donor, that would make it awkward.

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  • Wow- who would be that rude!

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  • I’d never ask a question like this of any Mum and I’m not sure if I’d be able to think of a wittier reply if I was asked. Just love her reply. It’s one way of stopping the question in its tracks.

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  • OMG. Who has EVER asked this question? HOW RUDE. I can’t believe it. HOW RUDE.

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  • Why people are curious too much of others life?I will never answer this kind of questions.This might lead to relationship problem as well.

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  • That is such a strange thing to come out and ask someone.

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  • I also have seven children…. I get asked if I own a TV…. or how many baby daddies. I answer with eleven. Seems to shut them up

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  • Some people just need to learn to keep their insensitive comments to them selves!

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  • Yeah this happened to me and my family. They look Maori and I dont another then my big nose so alot of questions come up that used to piss me right off.

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  • Some people are so rude or just think it’s ok to ask these questions.
    I’m one of 5 and remember mum saying someone asked her if she knew where babies came from?

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  • I’d laugh because I can understand why some people would be curious considering the way society is today. There are people who go from partner to partner, relationship to relationship, having children with multiple partners along the way. To each their own so I’m not surprised and that’s why I wouldn’t be offended.

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  • What a question! It wouldn’t deserve an answer!

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  • That is so rude! I get asked if all four of my children are mine but never if they have the same father I wouldn’t respond if someone did ask, the look on my face would say it all.

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  • I can’t believe anyone would ask the question in the first place. It’s no ones business if you don’t share it

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  • That’s really just incredibly rude!!

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