December 18, 2019


Mum shares why she refuses to buy her kids any birthday or Christmas presents – even though she can afford to.

Mum-of-two Kim Palmer’, 39, from Sevenoaks made the decision not to gift her four-year-son Louis ANY presents at Christmas to teach him the true meaning of the festive season – and hopefully avoid him becoming spoilt.

She’s never even bought him a birthday present and said she intends to continue the tradition for her eight-month-old little boy Kingsley.

She explains to The Sun, “My worst fear was my children growing up to be spoilt. So when my four-year-old son was born, I told my husband Simon, 38, that I wanted our children to grow up feeling grateful for everything that they’re given.

“I decided that I wouldn’t buy my children gifts at Christmas.

“Our finances have no part to play in our decision. My husband is a teacher, and I am a strategy director and CEO of a wellness brand for women called Clementine, so we would have no issue with buying our sons lots of extravagant Christmas presents if we chose to do so.”

She added, “Christmas shouldn’t be all about the presents. I want to teach my children the value of money, and raise them to appreciate all they are given. I feel that less is more, especially at this time of the year.

“Don’t get me wrong, I love Christmas – and our son loves it too!

“My four-year-old has just started to understand Christmas and how it all works; of course, he believes in Santa.

“Christmas will be very special for us this year, as it will be our eight-month-old’s first Christmas.”

The mum shared that she does allow family to buy her children gifts still.

“I don’t have any problems with relatives buying our sons gifts. My husband has a very large family and my parents send them special presents over from New Zealand, so they’ll never be short of presents to open on Christmas Day.

“After all, we want them to have the real Christmas experience.

“However, we do try to advise our relatives to gift our boys things that they need, and fewer things that they want.”

“We will decorate our house with twinkling lights and make sure our children have the best day. The only difference is, they won’t receive any presents from us.

“However, we do try to advise our relatives to gift our boys things that they need, and fewer things that they want.”

It’s just a choice!

“It’s a choice we’ve made purely on the way we want to raise our children. It’s the same with birthdays.

“I have never bought my four-year-old a birthday gift. These “special” occasions all become a bit too much.”

“Instead we try to focus on having experiences together and making memories as a family, rather than making it all about the material things.

“However, this is proving to be harder as they grow up. Kids are growing up in a world that over-stimulates them.

“Handing them gifts on a plate doesn’t help to grow their curious minds, teach them the value of money or show them the true meaning of Christmas.”

Do you agree with this mums logic?

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  • We do the same! And the kids don’t mind at all… because they are never lacking.
    They always have big celebrations on their birthday where we invite all their friends. By the time they have unwrapped all their presents from friends its pretty much like a big sugar rush – they crash and forget about the toys. So i put them away and let them choose a couple of presents to play with first and then one every few weeks. They are always surprised again when choosing coz they have forgotten what they had in the first place.
    Intead foa present on their birthday, I give them breakfast in bed, the lounge room filled with balloons and cupcakes to start the day. I give them a beautiful day on their birthday.
    So then does it matter if i don’t give them a present on their birthday? Dont think so.

    As parents it gives us joy to give our kids things – but it doesn’t have to be on their birthday. I give my kids what they desire and dont have on other days when they have been deserving instead.


  • J think this is a bit sad too. I wonder if the child will resent them when they are older. Why couldn’t they just buy them something they need. One medium sized present with meaning to it.


  • Your child, your choice. I find this sad too! Nothing at all is rather extreme.


  • I understand the intention but i find this sad. I think its a real joy of childhood. I always remember lying in bed the night before and being so excited with anticipation. I still love Christmas to this day and whilst i still enjoy getting presents what i love most about it is spending time with family. So i think I’ve turned out ok.


  • I love the concept, but no presents at all is a little sad. I don’t think by not buying ANY gifts reallys changes the idea rather then perhaps a couple of gifts from mum and dad. We buy gifts and still teach our kids to be grateful, they give gifts to their cousins, and never get angry or spoilt when they don’t receive something they want. I believe it’s all in the overall teaching.


  • I do agree with having experiences!


  • I can understand the theory behind this but I think no presents is a bit overkill. Maybe one present each would be nicer. I’m curious if santa brings them presents as she said her 4 yr old believes in santa. If he gets nothing from Santa that would make him feel horrible seeing all his little mates with new presents from santa


  • i think giving gifts is also imp -but yes i did not give him very many gifts – i did a few things which he needed anyways… he’s turning 5 soon and starts school this year so yeah he was very happy with his gifts.


  • Well I don’t see how that would teach the children anything except that their parents don’t really care about them…


  • What a cruel thing


  • Strange sort of logic – the children still get these presents, just not immediate family [her and her husband] so I don’t see how that is teaching them anything. Just my opinion.


  • I suppose it makes sense. Worth others buying gifts they are not missing out and it means they may appreciate the gifts they do receive more. I just reflect on Christmases where I got multiple Barbie’s so there would be a prettier one. If I didn’t have anything to compare it to it would have just been new, shiny and awesome.


  • I feel that Christmas has become a very expensive exercise and the real meaning of Christmas has been lost. I think that the children should get something for their birthdays and some small things for Christmas but peer pressure is going to make it very difficult once the children are a little older.


  • Its her choice I suppose but I think its a bit sad when he gets older and all his friends are receiving gifts and he isn’t. How is she going to explain that.


  • I couldn’t imagine doing this.. I love gifting, especially birthday and thank you presents.


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