Woman claims mother in law sneakily found out the sex of their baby

Woman claims her mother in law found out the sex of their baby behind her back and then told everyone.

Anonymous wrote a letter to agony aunt Dear Prudence which was published by Slate magazine, reports Daily Mail.

Signing off her note, Sad Mommy, the woman explained how she’d had a cordial relationship with her mother-in-law during her six year marriage to her husband.

‘I am now pregnant with his family’s first grandchild. My husband and I mutually decided that we didn’t want to know the sex before the birth,’ she wrote.

‘My mother-in-law was livid with our decision, even though I tried to placate her by using the obstetrician she suggested and allowing her to attend some of my prenatal appointments. She continued to bring up gender at every opportunity.’

The woman went in to say she was surprised to see her mother-in-law smiling broadly at her doctor’s office one day.

‘A few days later I had messages from family members congratulating me on the baby girl I was having! My mother-in-law wheedled the information out of the ultrasound technician, who is a friend of hers, then announced it.’

The woman understandably felt hurt and betrayed by the actions of her husband’s mother and that she and her husband had now made a decision to exclude his mother from the birth of the baby.

How would you feel if your mum or MIL did this to you?

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20 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 21 Dec 2021
    2:54 pm
For a start I would be lodging a formal complaint against thed ultrasound tech.

As far as the MIL is concerned. She went way too far so in future she would be the last to know anything. I would never trust her in the future. H4er son would have to be 100% on my side and make it totally clear to his mother that she over stepped and is not to do anything like this ever again.

- - tessie said
  - 13 Nov 2016
    1:35 pm
I can’t believe her mother-in-law or the technician for spreading this. The parents stated they didn’t want to know before the birth. I’m glad that she will not be allowed at the birth of her first grandchild. Maybe she will now learn to respect her son and daughter-in-laws’ wishes.

- - ella12 said
  - 08 Nov 2016
    4:15 pm
That is just disgraceful! I wouldn’t have anything to do with her, or if that is difficult, keep your distance.

- - lspew said
  - 07 Nov 2016
    2:55 pm
I would be so angry and hurt that if this had of happened. She had no right to give out that information to anyone. and shouldnt it be a breech of confidentiality for the ultrasound tech to give out that info too? I would be suing the tech!!
- mom144300 replied
  
  16 Jan 2017 , 9:04 pm
  I totally agree. If that happened to me the tech would at a minimum be unemployed & the company sued
- - rovermum said
  - 07 Nov 2016
    9:54 am
This is absolutely unforgivable. Sneaky, deceitful, selfish, WRONG. And I would let her know it – or to avoid upset during my pregnancy, tell my husband to let her know it. I had evil in-laws who we are estranged from because they are controlling of their children and grandchildren and use my son as a pawns in their very vicious game. The signs were always there at major events in my life, but changed dramatically when my son was born. We’re estranged from them for his physical and emotional safety.

- - mom90758 said
  - 05 Nov 2016
    12:19 am
Astonishing! I would be really mad at her!
She could have really broken up something in the relationship with her daughter-in-law and her son!!

- - rick said
  - 04 Nov 2016
    6:00 pm
My now ex-husbands family were demanding I find out the sex. I didn’t want to. My then brother in law stood up for me and said it was my baby, I had to go through the pregnancy and delivery and they just had to wait to find out.

Your mother in law needs to butt out and her friend should not have her job. I’m sure she would have signed a confidentiality agreement when she accepted her job.

I hope you and your husband continue to have a wonderful pregnancy, safe labour and lots of great times with your baby.

- - lwcarden said
  - 04 Nov 2016
    11:06 am
It breaches the privacy rules and the ultrasound technician needs to be sued along with the company the technician works for. If you didn’t want to know, that should have been the end of it!!

- - mom134803 said
  - 04 Nov 2016
    7:28 am
How awful, the behaviour of this mum in law is absolutely inappropriate and goes way over her line !! I would be furious and suggest to my husband to take distance from her.
- mom134803 replied
  
  04 Nov 2016 , 7:37 am
  That the technician told the gender to the mum in law is absolutely over the limit as well. The parents should report this and make a complaint about him.
- - Sarah said
  - 04 Nov 2016
    1:35 am
I would be so extremely angry..I’d erase my mother in law totally from my/our lives..what she did is so unforgivable.!!..I’d take legal action against the ultrasound technician as well..

- - june11 said
  - 03 Nov 2016
    11:10 pm
The person who did the ultrasound had NO right to have told the MIL anything. Given the fact that you told her that you didn’t want to know that you wanted a surprise makes it even worse on the part of the ultrasound person. I would be as annoyed with him. How does your husband feel about this situation??

- - mom101628 said
  - 03 Nov 2016
    8:36 pm
I’m sure she feels very unhappy now – but there are greater things to contend with than your mother-in-law letting the cat out of the bag.

- - BellaB said
  - 03 Nov 2016
    5:19 pm
She has been deprived of something she can never get back. I’d sue the clinic, and refuse to allow MIL to hav nothing o do with me r my baby.

- - mom156049 said
  - 03 Nov 2016
    3:45 pm
Wow!! I would be furious!! Not her place and I’d also see hwat legalities there are with the ultrasound technician breaching confidentiality. No more mil in my life after that!!

- - jessies girl said
  - 03 Nov 2016
    2:57 pm
Not only would I exclude her from the birth but from everything. Just so rude. I would tel, her she was not welcome at the hospital at all or at my home until I decide. I would probably havd come close to punching her