A mum has asked if it is morally wrong to baptise her son just to get him into a religious school…

A mum has taken to Mumsnet to ask if it is morally wrong to baptise her son simply to get him into a local religious school. The mum says that the Catholic school in her area has a wonderful reputation, but that those who aren’t baptised have a limited chance of being accepted.

The Right Reasons

Despite her husband being baptised Catholic, the mum says that the family do not practice any religion.

“My husband was brought up Catholic but isn’t religious,” she wrote.

The mum admitted that she doesn’t feel comfortable baptising her son just to get him into a school, but that her husband seems to have no issue with it.

“We haven’t had our son baptised but my husband thinks we should now to get him into a Catholic school,” she wrote. “Am I being unreasonable to think this is morally wrong?”

Consider Other Options

Comments on the post agreed with the mum’s feelings of apprehension about baptising her son.

“I think it is morally wrong,” one forum user wrote. “I don’t think there is any good reason to have your child baptised into a religion which you don’t practice and don’t believe in.”

“Are there really no other reasonable school choices?” said another. “I think Catholic schools are fine if you are religious but can’t see the attraction if you’re not.”

Many Aussie parents face the same dilemma when choosing a school for their child, but we think it’s always worth remembering that we are so lucky to live in a country with amazing public education!

Do You Need To Be Catholic To Enrol In A Catholic School?

No. Most Catholic schools are open to all who want to share its educational goal, inspired by Christian principles. In accordance with each school’s enrolment vacancies, preference is given to students who are baptised Catholic and who live in the local parish and then to children of Catholic families from other parishes who wish to enrol. However, schools are open to all who wish to be guided in their education by the principles and teachings of Christ.

All families and their children, Catholic or non-Catholic, are invited to have a Catholic education but must be willing to participate in the religious life and culture of the school. It is a requirement of students attending Catholic schools that they participate in the learning of the K-12 Religious Education program.

Have you baptised your child just to get them into a school? Share your story in the comments!

  • Not something I would do. But I bet there are lots of parents that do it. To each their own! You do you!


  • It’s the wrong reason to baptise your child.


  • I think it is wrong to baptise just to get into a school, a lot of them will know you don’t belong to a church and the child will be learning that it is ok to lie. A lot of churches you just can’t say you want the child baptised.


  • I actually had mum friends try & pressure me to baptise my daughter, even knowing that i am in no way religious… their reasoning was “for a better education” blatantly telling me my own selfish beliefs were jeopardising my daughters future & education! I think the idea that a religious school teaches better is just out dated & untrue! Our local public school reaches just as good grade Average as the catholic school & often times better!


  • No, if this is the only reason you are doing it, then it is not right ….


  • No I haven’t but as an atheist (I wasn’t always), if, some strange reason I was set on my child attending a Catholic school and the only hurdle was she had to be baptised then yes, I’d do it, after all, how can something be morally (right or wrong) if you don’t believe in it in the first place. To me, it’s no different than a politician who changes their residence to be able to run in a particular electorate because the rules state they must live in that electorate. Personally, I wouldn’t listen to any feined moral outrage from others just because it’s to do with religion when we all make decisions, one way or another, to get the outcome we want.


  • I’ve read this article before. Think it goes far to baptise your child to get them into a school, in my opinion that’s not the right reason.


  • No I don’t think it’s right, i would never do this.


  • I agree to the mom. It’ll also be difficult in the long run if the parents can not show or practice their faith. The child may get confused and may cause issues in the future.


  • As a rule catholic schools have to accept anybody so long as there’s numbers. My eldest attends a catholic school and not everyone enrolled is catholic. When my middle child was enrolled there they didn’t care that he wasn’t baptised. But I agree with the mum anyway. It’s not right. I’m not catholic, I went to a catholic uni as it was the best uni for studying to be a teacher, but I can’t work in a catholic school, even with a bachelors in teaching


  • You don’t have to be Catholic to go to a Catholic school. I teach in a Catholic school and both of my non Catholic kids go there. Most of our kids are non denominational.


  • No I would not. I went to a Catholic school in both primary and secondary. I chose myself in primary school that I wanted to be baptised and I would like to give my children the same choice.


  • No way. You either mean it or you don’t


  • No i wouldn’t do it.


  • No, I wouldn’t do that. And having gone to a Catholic school, I wouldn’t send my kids to one anyway!


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