Thanks for the update ! I’m glad it worked out well.
My daughter was 12months and 3 weeks old when my son was born and I remember it was hard juggling the two of them. We shared the burden. my husband would care for my daughter in the evenings/night whilst the newborn & breastfeeding him was for me And during the day I made sure to do plenty of activities & cuddles with my daughter

For anyone else who might be interested 6 years later, we put a blow up bed on the floor in our 15 month olds room. that seemed to settle him a little and didn’t upset the baby who was in our bedroom. Mostly it was my husband sleeping on the blow up bed

Hope your 14 month old has since settled for you.

Just be careful that he doesn’t get used to having a routine car trip each time he wants to go to sleep, or it will be a hard habit to break.

How is it going for you now?

Maybe a sleep over bed in your room on the floor for a whole. He is just trying to work out where he fits and what the go is. Make sure u spen one on one time with him. I know it’s hard

I hope things are going better for you now and the family and new bub have all settled in to their new lives x

Trying to adjust to a new baby maybe he is feeling the same

It can be a really disruptive time for older siblings when a new baby comes home, especially if there’s other things going on like getting teeth, poor little guy. I think its very important to be patient, take it day by day, and start to try and get the whole family into a new routine. Things need to be resettled to accommodate the new addition.

Tough I mean

U gotta b a bit more thought I think

I had the same thing with my daughter when we bought our new son home from hospital. I found that with being so tired from being up with 2 kids I just wanted my daughter to go off to sleep. I refused to give her a bottle and bought her into my bed to sleep. Once she was fully asleep I put her back in her bed. After about a week of doing this and telling her that she was going to sleep all night in her bed she did. She has slept through the night since then .. fingers crossed

I think rach has pretty much covered it all

Hope that is helpful

techniques: 12 months to toddlers

Children are all different.

Sleep problems are quite common in this age range. Common problems include: separation anxiety, night-time fears and nightmares. Problems that you may have experienced when they were infants can also return. Sleep habits change as the child develops and in order for children to get enough sleep, their daily routines need to match their developmental stage.

How much sleep does my child need?

All children are different which means that some children will sleep more and some will sleep less.

From 12 months to 3 years: children need between 12-13 hours per day over a 24 hour period with one long overnight sleep and 1 to 3 sleep/s during the day depending on their individual needs. Some children will not require a day sleep. If your child is happy and displays no tired signs or cues your child may not require a day sleep. A short `nap’ or quiet time may be sufficient.

Tired signs or cues

When your child becomes tired or overtired, behaviour can become irritable, overactive and/or demanding. Respond to your child’s’ tired signs or cues by introducing a quiet time to wind down (reducing activities and decreasing stimulation) in preparation for sleep.

Sleep cycles

The sleep-wake cycle, is the time spent going through both deep (quiet) and light (active) stages of sleep. Between each sleep –wake cycle, children rouse/wake briefly then resettle to sleep. A sleep cycle from four (4) months to being a toddler is around 30 to 50 minutes, increasing to 60-90 minutes for a preschooler.

Sleep Associations

Sleep associations create the conditions under which children can fall asleep. Sleep associations can either be helpful or unhelpful. Some children are dependent on their parents to help them fall asleep. These children may have difficulty self settling and resettling unless the same conditions for settling are met. For example, if your child needs a complicated routine to fall asleep such as a breast feed, bottle and/or dummy, after one sleep cycle your child may wake and need this process repeated to settle.

Preparation for sleep

Bed time routines

Your child is strongly influenced by their environment, daily activities and routines. A predictable bedtime routine (sequence of activities) including a wind-down period (for example, meal, bath, cleaning teeth, story time, brief cuddle and kiss, and into bed) is important to help your child recognise and establish good sleep patterns.

When assisting your child develop a sleep pattern it is better to use levels of distress as your guide to comfort your child rather then a time schedule. In preparation for sleep, a bedtime routine (depending on day or night) encourages a wind-down period and ensures that your child’s physical needs are met such as.
•Bath time
•Clean nappy
•Clean teeth
•Dim lighting
•Talk quietly, gentle song, cuddle, story time tuck/wrap depending on age
•Kiss and say goodnight
•Ensure your child is adequately clothed especially for the night e.g. warm pyjamas, enough blankets or a sleeping bag.
•Having a favourite small soft toy or similar in the cot/bed may provide comfort
•If in a cot ensure that the sides are up and securely in place

Settling Options

Comfort Settling

Comfort settling provides your child with reassurance and support while also providing an opportunity for your child to discover their own way of going to sleep.

Following a bedtime routine as above:

1. Talk quietly, reassure child i.e. ‘good night it is time for sleep’ to encourage a state of calm

2. Position your child on their back in the cot/bed awake [calm/drowsy]

3. Comfort your child providing verbal reassurance in a calm firm voice ‘time for sleep’ rhythmic patting, or stroking

4. As your child calms, move away from the cot/ bed or leave the room

5. Listen to your child’s level of distress (intensity of cry)

6. If your child is not calming return to the room using a calm voice provide reassurance (steps 3), then lay him/her down and tuck in the bedclothes move away from the cot/ bed or leave the room

7. You may have to repeat steps 1-6 several times before your child responds

8. During the day if your child does not respond pick your child up, cuddle until calm then either
•Reattempt comfort settling (steps 1-4)
•Stay with your child until asleep
•Get your child up, continue with daily routine and try again at the next sleep time

9. During the night if your child does not respond continue (steps 1-6) providing comfort / reassurance however if your child remains distressed you may need to consider other options. Such as:
•Picking your child up and cuddle until calm
•Offering a drink of water (cup)
•Staying with your child until they are asleep

The length of time it takes to calm your child will decrease as your child learns to settle.

Self settling

Following a bedtime routine as above:

Prepare your child for sleep as per steps 1 to 3 above.

10. Leave the room promptly allowing the child the opportunity to self settle

11. If your child is not calming, return to the room using a calm voice provide reassurance (step 3), then lay him/her down and tuck in the bedclothes, then leave the room

12. Continue reassuring your child intermittently by comforting in the cot/bed for brief periods until calm and leaving the room for slightly longer periods

13. You may have to repeat the steps several times before the your child responds

14. The length of time out of the room is dependent on your child’s level of distress and your capacity to wait and listen for crying to reduce

15. During the day if your child does not respond pick your child up and cuddle until calm then either:
•Reattempt (steps 1,2, 3,10, 11 and 12)
•Staying with your child until asleep
•Getting your child up, continue with daily routine and try again

16. During the night if your child does not respond continue (steps 1-6) providing comfort / reassurance however if your child remains distressed you may need to consider other options. Such as:
•Picking your child up and cuddle until calm
•Offering a drink of water (cup)
•Staying with your child until they are asleep

The length of time it takes to calm your child will lessen as your child learns to self settle.

Gradual withdrawal

This option helps children who may find self-settling too difficult for various reasons such as co-sleeping or high levels of separation anxiety. Following a bedtime routine as above:

Prepare your child for sleep as per steps 1 to 3 above.

17. Remain in close proximity allowing your child to fall asleep with a parent in view. (e.g. chair beside the bed or sitting on the bed)

18. Over time the distance between you and your child is gradually increased as your child gains confidence and the ability to fall asleep without you present.

Parental presence

You may prefer this option if your child is over 6 months of age and has not been separated from you at sleep time. Following a bedtime routine as above:

Prepare your child for sleep as per steps 1 to 3 above.

19. Once calm lie down or sit beside the cot within sight of your child and pretend to be asleep

20. If your child remains awake, give a little cough or quietly ‘ssshhh time to sleep’ signalling you are still in the room

21. If your child becomes distressed respond with the minimal action required to calm your child and repeat steps 19-20

22. Stay in the room until your child is asleep during the day and sleep in the same room as your child throughout the night

23. This continues for at least 1 week or until your child has 3 consecutive nights of relatively uninterrupted sleep. You can now begin to leave the room before your child is asleep.

Transition from cot to bed

Moving into a bed is an exciting step towards being an independent grown-up. Make sure your child knows how proud you are of them sleeping in a bed.
•A new ‘big bed’ routine may help with this transition
•Have quiet time before bed. Pack away toys and prepare the bedroom as a place of quiet rest, rather than somewhere exciting
•Encourage your child to climb into bed by them self
•Provide verbal reassurance ‘time for sleep’
•Tell your child what you expect from her/him and what is going to happen next. In a calm firm voice give positive instruction , ‘It’s time to go to sleep – see you in the morning,’ this makes bedtime seem less scary
•Pull up bedcovers and arrange soft toys as your child wants
•Keep a familiar blanket from the cot this might also make your child feel more secure.

General Safety issues

Pillows are not recommended for children under two. They can increase the risk of suffocation, and should only be introduced with caution.
•Ensure the cot sides are completely raised whenever the child is left unattended in the cot.
•Don’t leave toys in the cot that can be used to climb over the cot sides
•It is important to choose options that are safe and suit you and your child. If your child does not calm [during the day] after an attempt to settle and becomes too distressed, get your child up and continue your daily routine. If your child remains unsettled ask for help from family, friends, the Child and Family Health Nurse or local doctor.

For all young children

There are three main ways to reduce the risk of SIDS:
1.Put your child on their back to sleep, from birth;
2.Make sure your child’s head remains uncovered during sleep.
3.Keep your child smoke free

More information on how to reduce the risk of SIDS and sleeping your child safely can be obtained from the SIDS and Kids website or by contacting SIDS and Kids by telephone on 1300 308 307.

For further help:
•Visit either your local Child and Family Health Centre or local doctor.
•Call Tresillian Parent’s Help Line on (02) 9787 0855 or 1800 637 357 (Freecall outside Sydney)
•Speak to a Tresillian Nurse on-line at Tresillian Live Advice

Maybe it is his way of trying to get a bit more attention now that he has half of what he is used to. If possible, I would suggest setting aside 15 minutes to half an hour a day where someone else cares for bubs for you, and you just sit down with your son and read him a book or chat to him, just so he feels like he has some time that is just you and him

Try and have some support maybe your partner can look after your 14 month old while you look after the new born and vice versa

You need to be patient. Managing to lil ones is not easy. maybe ask your family for any sopports if they can

I think patience is the key and persistence in a routine that suits both your toddler and new bub. All kids get out of routine when a new sibling comes along. I think its just a matter of riding it out and again persistence in the routine,

Its a tricky time for your 14 month old, they have had their life change a great deal. I would try to get a solid routine in place, and get your own sleep in at every opportunity.