Hello!

My boy is 9 years, he’s my first born, and he has been on online tutor/extra homework or task (about 5-8 maths tasks and also 5-8 english task per week) since he was in early grade 3. It was all up to himself whether he wanted to finish it all in one afternoon sitting, or spread it out over the week, so long as they are finished by Sunday.

Moving on until term 4 of grade 3, I’ve signed him up to another program, online live classes, 3 classes a week (maths and thinking skills 1 hour, english and writing skills 1 hour, review 2 hours).

The reason for the extra program, is to boost him up for the coming OC test. He was use to the first program, it has become easy for him, though I still kept him on it, as there isn’t homework from school, and I want him to be occupied with some work rather than gaming or tv all the time.

Am I too strict, is this too much or am I a “tiger mum”?


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  • This sounds like a lot of extra work. Homework is not necessarily beneficial, he may be better off joining a sports team to learn social skills, relaxation and make friends. Education isn’t just about the academics. He needs time to develop other skills too and to be able to play and have fun.


  • Kids need down time, perhaps you could compromise a little more with him. It all sounds like a lot especially when he has school as well. Maybe you could cut it by half and see how that goes but explain that the extra hour is for him to do something other than gaming or tv but he can choose?


  • This sounds like a lot to me if your son doesn’t have specific problems. Limit his gaming and TV time, sure, but there are lots of other good things he could do with that time – read a book, sports, craft activities…


  • How much does he fight it? Does he have adequate family, friend, leisure, and physical activity time?


  • Personally I never focused too much on education outside of the school hours. At that age I found play dates with friends, outdoor activities, hobbies and sports more important after school


  • Along with balance always check in with children on how they are travelling with school work, sports, activities and health and wellbeing.


  • It’s good to limit his screen time but the most important thing is to spend time with him so perhaps there is a way for you to do it with him but without the screens or do it with the screens and with him but limit the screen time and allow him to play outside too or do an art project woth him


  • I think as long as there is a balance, it’s fine. And as long as the expectations aren’t weighing him down


  • I have a 9yo son who loves learning. He will set himself tasks and do assignments on things he’s interested in. I guess it depends on your child and whether he wants to do the extra work. I personally wouldn’t push it if he doesn’t. If you want him off his devices maybe try a sport or instrument?


  • Balance is key to all things in life; school work, homework, exercise, hobbies, activities and plenty of play time which allows time for creativity, thinking and happiness.


  • If he is happy doing it that is great but there are more options out there than just gaming or TV when he is not doing this.. Playing with friends, arts & crafts, sports, board games, gardening, reading, toys, using his imagination to occupy himself etc.


  • It is a lot indeed ! Is there a reason why you are so focussed on homework and learning ?


  • So I don’t have children who are of schooling age yet, but the course you have your son enrolled in is exactly what my husband wants for our children. He really believes in building skills and wants us to encourage activities that are beneficial and work towards goals. I agree, but also want creative activities. It sounds like you have a smart child who is excelling. I think that if you’re providing care and support and you would listen if he’s struggling with the work load or pressure, then you’re doing a great job.


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