Hope you’re going much better now !

I have anxiety and depression, the first signs or if I haven’t taken my tablets my little one senses it instantaneously! That’s when he starts feeling irritated and shows similar signs to your little one.
If this is long term, I’d day medication is the best thing i ever did, councilling and a lot of other methods made me worse, pre-baby of course!
My loved ones suffered the most, and as much as people are against it, medication was my best solution.
You can’t live life constantly battling the blues.
Especially when your a mum, do it for them
Lots of luck Hun xxxx

Reading books about it helps!

That’s how I was all the time

Please ask someone to help you it can be overwhelming for a first time mum Good Luck

That’s. No good Is there any family who can help for u to hv a little bit of time to yourself?

it’s full on isn’t it. such a rude awakening.

Sometimes you just have to do what works for you and not worry about anything else. Hope things improve xx

Slow down and breathe. Is it necessary that you get a job right now at this very moment? Put it off if you can and concentrate on you. You need to look after yourself too, you are important. Surround yourself with supporting people and don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Get someone to look after bub for a couple of hours so you can get some sleep. Step out into the fresh air and breathe it in, put bub in the pram and go for a short walk. Becoming a mum for the first time can be very daunting but just know that there is light at the end of the tunnel, you will get through this.

I’m not sure where you live, but have you enquired about “sleep” schools with your child health nurse? Both my sister in laws, went to sleep school where they were shown how to get their babies to sleep better. And both now have babies/children that sleep really well. Your lack of sleep would be effecting the way you feel.

There are some really good PND hotlines around, have a search for the one in your state. They can put you on to support groups etc to help you out.

See a Dr and a Baby Health Nurse and be open about what is going on. Once you feel better, other things will fall into place for you. Good Luck.

I’d suggest seeing your doctor, they will then be able to refer you to any other services that may benefit you

I found our local child health nurse was a great resource and they can help even talk things through or put you in touch with specialists who may help with the sleep; a babysitter for the night so you can get some sleep. They helped me through all sorts.

Please see your doctor they can help and get you to feel much better, it took me 3 years before i spoke up after my son was born and finally went when my 3rd child was born, and i feel much better. You have your good and bad days, take some time out 5 mins breathe and relax.

I think the number 1 important thing when you’re a parent and particularly when you’re stressed and have depression is learning to walk away. By that I mean when you get frustrated and baby wont settle place bubs in the cot gently and just walk away for a moment take a breath and try to put things in perspectic. It will get better. You’ll have your good and your bad days and remember bubs also picks up on your feelings. If you’re feeling upset it’s most likely your baby will be upset.

I do have to say though although this is quite personal if you’re on any birth control that can cause problems too. For example I had the implannon put in after have my little girl and the first 12 months or so was horrible. I really felt like I was losing it. Although I still get depressed I think I cope a little bit better then I did. It’s also important to get me time when you can. If bubs sleeps during the day then take the opportunity to have a sleep or just relax for a bit even take the opportunity when you can to catch up with people relatives or friends even if it’s just talking on the phone, sometimes those little things help you feel a little better. Avoid people that are judgemental and make you feel bad about yourself.
Maybe consider whether or not it’s worthwhile for you to go back to work yet. Although it’s probably tough money wise. If you’re not getting much sleep and you’re stressed this may make you feel worse. Just weigh up the pros and cons.

Try to avoid caffeine because I found since doing that I’m feeling a lot better. I’m not getting angry or overwhelmed as much.

This may sound bad but do u breast feed? I found I had severe exhaustion and depression while breast feeding because my body just couldn’t cope. As soon as I switched to formula I was a million times better.
It is very hard to find a job as a mum.

Oh and make bubs day time nap in a light room and night time one in a dark room. Is bub getting enough bright light during the day for their body to know day from night.

Do you need to work? If not don’t, try to have a daytime sleep. Join a playgroup or two or three, go to storytime at your local library if they have it. Join another mum or two from mums group and take the prams for a walk (with children in them of course, hehe).
Talk to your health sister for advice.
Don’t run to bub over every sound, they will let you know if they need you.
Take a skipping rope after putting bub down either in bed or in the pram and skip till 100 or jump on a trampoline if you have one. Even little bits of exercise can make you feel more destressed, awake and able to cope.

Just remember you’re a better mum when you feel good, so even if it seems mean at the time its better for both you and bubs. The sleeping issue is the start, not all agree but try controlled crying. It saved my sanity and only took a few days and he was sleeping through the night. Once I had sleep I was more relaxed and more devoted to being a mum. The rest of the previous comments are great advice. I hope things get brighter for you soon xx