I think it’s good you’re looking for help with this situation, and that you’ve been able to have a chat to him about it so he is aware that women are portrayed differently than in normal life.

I’m sure he will be able to acces these rudie pics sone other way, such as his friends who claim to already gave seen it

I don’t think it’s too much to worry about, he’s just curious. If he doesn’t see it at home, he’ll most likely ask his friends for it

use educational pictures from textbooks and what not depicting a very average women in a not very sexy style and ones that depict and explain reproductive organs for men and women

Good idea – he is going to find it one way or another – better to have some control over it and let him know ok to ask questions

i would not know how to sort this out either

Personally I wouldn’t give him any pre approved images, but to be honest I don’t really know what the answer is to this question. Hope you find the solution.

make sure your VERY open and honest with him. it will ease the burden of peer pressure, if he is not embarrassed about the situation and can speak with you then you will know what is going on and his curiosity may decrease a bit.

He’s going to find a way to see these images, maybe chat to him..I wouldn’t provide the material. Just let him know he can be open with you.

This is a difficult problem. He will be naturally curious and want to look at stuff his friends will be talking about. However, some sites are too graphic and totally inappropriate for a young boy. Perhaps there is a more mild site that you can make a deal that he can look at if he doesn’t try venture to other stuff. Might be a job for his dad.

I would let him look, he Is a young person who is curious and should learn in a safe environment

there are some good comments here

Yes he is a heterosexual male who will starting to be curious about sex. You can’t control what he does outside your home or whether others, especially his friends bring porn to him. However you can decide the messages you give your son as a woman. Soft porn is still porn; it objectifies women. You can still talk to him about sex and the changes in his bodies and what that means. Respectful attitudes towards women begin at home. There is no longterm harm with your son seeing porn initially, as long as you and his father promote respectful attitudes towards women.

I wouldnt be supplying him with anything at all.
As other parents have said I would be telling him that if he dares to access these site on your internet connection then he will be banned from using the internet.
The concern is not where does it start but where does it end.
12 is way to young AND again I would say be very careful about buying him magazines because even though he is your child you need to be careful…..I would check out the laws about supplying porn to underage children…you could be putting yourself at risk legally.

We have a 13 year old son,we haven’t come across this one yet ,but we do tell him he can’t go on porn sites or he will lose his iPad.And I check his history all the time.

Wow what a hard question. I agree that it is a worry that if you let your son look he might show other children who aren’t allowed. However I do think you’ve raised an interesting point of allowing him to look at preapproved pics. I guess as long as there is plenty of healthy discussion going it might prevent him from being secretive or looking up heavy porn. My parents had a heavy ban on all of this which just led me to hiding it and feeling dirty etc. Now I am becoming my own regulator on how much is enough.

Hmm.. To be honest, there is no way of stopping him. It is a phase. He will get access from outside anyway Sigh….

At the age of 12 many pre teens are starting to develop relationships and will start to have girlfriends etc. If there is a male that he is close to (father, uncle, teacher etc) perhaps asking them to have a chat to him, might be the way to go.

Wow this is a hard one I haven’t go to yet. I think you will be dammed if you do and dammed if you don’t. I would try and find a soft porn magazine or even some of those womens magagzines that have different naked body shapes and question and answer forums regarding sex and bodies. Can his dad talk to him (swallow that embarrassing don’t talk about sex thing) Good luck I don’t really know the answer, but if he doesn’t get it at home he will find it from his mates eventually.

I would Google “how-to-block-pornography-on-internet-connected-devices”. Set your search engine to “safe search” mode. I would and have block such sites. I know of a few families who thought it was ok for their son to look at soft porn but here is the problem.. their sons then showed this to their mates when they were around at their places for a visit. Parents fell out with each other and friendships were destroyed. Explain this situation to your son. Let him know that it’s ok to be inquisitive and have some house rules.