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My son is 21 months old. I have been seeing other mums with children around his age who are walking around outside of there house and daycare. They walk around with there mums at the store and I personally carry my son in and out of places and in the store I put him in the cart. Should I stop carrying him so much or is this something I should not worry about yet? And if I need to stop carrying him so much should I get him new shoes and just start making him walk? I am a first time mum and I have no idea how to start teaching him independence. Anyone have any ideas?


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  • It is really up to what is good for you and your son. He’s still very young. He’ll want to take off running at some point, so try not to worry about comparing yourself to others :)


  • I think as he gets bigger and heavier you’ll have an incentive to get him to walk more! But in general, I think if you’re both okay with what you’re doing now, you shouldn’t worry too much.


  • It all depends on how you feel about it. If you are in a hurry, then obviously carrying is the main way to get things done quickly. but encouragement to walk will help you son grow into a healthy young man.


  • Yes, encourage him to walk when ever it’s an option or you’ll be carrying a big kid! lol
    Any shoes that fit well. Teach him to hold your hand or the trolley and stay with you.


  • If he is able to walk, you should be encouraging it as much as possible- it will build his muscles and confidence- practice makes perfect.


  • Some kids walk early, some kids walk late. You could expand his walking in safe places like home and park. But really, he will get there


  • It really depend on how your feeling / how confident of a walker they are. If they need the practice then absolutely let them go and learn their feet. It takes long but it is so great for them to learn early on what to touch / can’t touch eg.


  • I hear you, My four year old daughter still wants to be carried most of the time and I have to try to get her to walk more often. Like another mum wrote, we’re also learning that mum’s back gets sore if I’m carrying her too much.
    I think it’s to do with my daughter wanting the closeness and comfort of having her mum carry her.
    Do what feels right for you.


  • You should always base this on what you feel is right and not what others may think. My daughter is 4.5 years old and still likes me to carry her from time to time. We are learning that this hurts mum’s back so we find alternative ways like using a trolley etc.


  • The answer should always depend on what you think, not what you see others doing. If it’s a problem for you, then yes, if it’s not a problem for you, then no.


  • My children were early walkers and loved their independence. All children are different and follow your intuition and your child’s lead and do what works bet for you and your child.


  • I dont think you’ll do any serious long term damage by carrying your son, even if it is too much, he’ll eventually be too big to carry and he’ll have to walk


  • Don’t worry momma , some kids they walk and wanted put them down some food free to be held all time specially the first ones , take lots of love . As we a new parent, we don’t know how to manage the kids for the first time . Experience and situations teach us more .


  • Don’t worry momma , some kids they walk and wanted put them down some food free to be held all time specially the first ones , take lots of advantage .


  • I still put my twins in the pram when shopping. Otherwise they would just go wild and run around in the shop. With two I just don’t have a choice.


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