Yeah, we have had dry patches during our relationship. Kids, work, life stresses and arguments can affect this. Ask your GP for more help, it could be hormonal and require blood tests and prescriptions

I’m like you, I can live without sex, take it or leave it, more often then not leave it

That is so unfortunate. I am 68 and still going strong. Have you seen a doctor or someone to seek help. Your problem could be due to something that is not your making. For instance your hormones could be out of wack! I mean that in the nicest way because they govern how our bodies mentally and physically tick. Hope this has helped you a little. All the best Robyn

I don’t have any suggestions sorry but you are most definitely not alone x

Good reading the comments there really quite interesting!

So a little bit concerned that u stopped being interested in sex 6 years ago yet u have a 18mnth old?! … so u r doing it…. just not enjoying it? I get like that sometimes but not for so so long! Definatly got to be something deeper and physiologically holding u back?

Not sure what to say except you aren’t alone. I have lost my sex drive too

never really enjoyed it. have you tried porn or toys? think its very common.

More common than I thought, interesting reading all the answers on here, looks like tiredness plays a big part.

I’m sure you are not alone in this, being a mother can be a stressful job and often the last thing on our minds is sex, I think our body clocks have something to do with this too. I would be going to see a doctor, your personal GP should be able to point you in the right direction.

I have similar feelings, I haven’t felt like sex for a couple of years now. I only participate to please my hubby. I am not sure what triggered this, as I had our son nearly 5yrs ago and it didn’t happen straight away. I am also very in love with my hubby, so our relationship is not the issue…

Talk to your GP, and ask to see a relationship counsellor or a psychologist. You really need to decide whether it’s a general lack of interest in sex, or it’s just how you feel about your partner in particular. And it is true in so many ways, that you less you have sex, the less you want it.

talk to a doctor and see where you can go from there

I lost interest in sex also, and the more you go without the more you don’t feel like it

it could be a stage or you have outgrown your partner and feel your kids give you all you need now and you don’t have to have sex if you don’t want it

i think its common in a lot of marriage but needs to be taken aside and spoken about and being able to understand each other

I think this is very common in a lot of women. If it is affecting your marriage and your feelings for your husband, I think it might be worth seeing a marriage counsellor.

This is so common amongst women who have children. Lack of sleep, exhausted, life so full with caring for your children you shut down and completely lose feelings. Your children seem to drain the feelings out of you, because the love for them sometimes leaves nothing left for others being your partner and yourself losing the need. I would speak to a specialist not a GP, go see a Psychiatrist they are great to talk to as well as they can give you an evaluation and also meds if needed.

Since you have a little one you should be able to talk to a therapist through you local health clinic. Your husband plays a part in this too. There is nothing more sexy than when a man comes home and takes on some of your duties. Just going to bed at night does not do it for at least 80% of women. We have more on our plates today with running the kids around town to and from their schooling and sporting events etc. Take a look and see that you are looking after yourself and not putting up a brick-wall between you and your husband. Be up front and tell him what he needs to do. When you holiday away from home is that a better choice of place to be intimate. Do you worry about your 13 year old being at home whilst you are intimate? If so how about meeting your husband at lunchtime, booking a room and having fun out like a date. Bring back the romance. Maybe you are stuck in a rut. How about joining a gym putting the kids in a creche there and get those endorphin’s jumping around again. You can do it for the sake of the children. Do you love him? That,s the question? Is he and your beautiful daughters worth the effort you are going to put into this. YES THEY ARE!

It sounds as though you need to talk to someone anonymous. I think you recognise that it might be connected to something bigger than sex. A therapist (not a gp) where you can speak without being judged is your best bet. Good luck.