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I’m just in fuss to have a baby after 8 years break after my first born. I’m just curious whether it’s good for my health or not and wont it be difficult to take care when you have forgotten how to do the daily chores and life is settled. Thanks


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  • And ? How did it work out ?


  • Regarding your health, it depends on your age. Anything else, you’ll be fine. It’s amazing how quickly you remember things once you start doing it all again. At the very least, you are no worse off than when you had your first.


  • You never forget how to care for a baby. Having a baby for health reasons is something I haven’t heard of. I had kids because I wanted kids, no other reason. The age gap between kids is not relevant either, as long as you are still young and fit enough to have another bsby


  • How to do daily baby chores is not something you forget, it’ll come back as soon as you do it !
    Don’t worry about the 8 years break, your first born will probably adore & cherish his/her little brother/sister !


  • I am a child that is younger than my siblings by 7 and 10 years (I wasn’t an accident…lol) it was hard though. When I was 5 they were 12 and 15. It was like having 2 sets of parents. I was probably bloody annoying especially at 7 and 8 years old when I wanted them to take me everywhere with them and their friends. We all get on, but I still felt like I was an only child as they were so much grown up and moved on by the time I was a teenager. Plus I wonder if my parents felt a bit over it by the time I finally finished high school. They could have been done years earlier, I’m not sure they took that into account. I wish I had a sibling around my age to be honest.


  • I think it would be an ajustment at first but In the long run it will be easier having an older child to help out .i have a couple of friends that have had the big gap and loved it.


  • it might be weird at first but you will adjust


  • I had 3 children in 20 mnths and I really believe I missed out on so much because I was so frantic looking after them and returning to fulltime work that it was not ideal, my sister has just had her 4th child, others are 18, 16 and 14, her baby is the most loved and well looked after child ever, the others dote on her, and doesn’t she know it, My sister is a lot better and more relaxed mother than she ever was with her other children, her older children were never left, breast fed, no solids, basically raised by books, this one is being raised by common sense, she is left with her grandmother who absolutely adores her grandy, she is partially breast fed, partial bottle, she will go to daycare as soon as she is 12 mnths old, she is booked in for 2 half days already as my sister wants to continue helping run the family business, she travels a lot with her partner and this child already has a passport and access to Qantas club!!! I think it all comes down to attitude and being relaxed, also having older children can be a blessing if they can help without taking advantage of them, as you do not want them to resent the baby. Good luck


  • Its really up to you and your husband.


  • You will pick it up easy


  • It depends how old you are.


  • My kids are 15, 6 and 3, so 9 year gap with oldest and middle girl. My teenager helps out a lot with the younger 2 and my 6 yr old helps me with my 3 year old too. You won’t forget how to care for a newborn but you can refresh your memory with this site and other parent sites.


  • I have 7.5 years between my two. Pregnancy was very different this time around, but no more harder than the first time. I had a few what the hell am I doing moments but they were fleeting. I wouldn’t have it any other way. My son dotes on his little sister and helps with small jobs like taking plates to the sink. He even watches his little sister while I have a shower before he goes to school. The first few weeks are a bit hard until you get into a routine. I was actually healthier in this pregnancy as I knew what it expect. Make sure you have a good gp/obs to help you through


  • Once bub is along you may find it just as strange as it was the first time… Once you have had a few days with bub it will all come back to you so I wouldn’t worry you will be fine.


  • you will pick it up again :)


  • I just wanted to conform with everyone else, I have a 6 year gap between my 2nd and 3rd between 1st and 3rd 10 yrs and it doesn’t matter how big the gap you remember what to do, you also will be surprised as there be new things as well only because every baby is different, as for your health yes again I agree only you know your situation and if your worried I would speak to a doctor I just had a fourth and am a little older and the Dr just made sure all checks ultrasounds and blood tests were done on time some more then once, So if you look after yourself before and during it will all be fine. Good luck with it all


  • It will be perfectly fine for your health, don’t worry


  • I have 9 1/2 years gap between my 2.
    Pros –
    2nd birth was much easier because I understood more and was more confident about refusing intervention.
    Breastfeeding was so easy with the 2nd one after taking a long time to work it all out with my first.
    Everything comes back to you very quickly.
    I appreciate having more time off work because I didn’t have to go back straight away

    Cons –
    It is harder being woken up during the night when you are older…yes it does make a difference being older….not so much energy and used to your own routine.
    My first was insanely jealous and has only just adapted after 12 months
    Nobody warned me about after-birth contractions with subsequent babies as your uterus shrinks while you are feeding bub. Worse than the labour itself!!!


  • You don’t forget all the things you did when you and your first bub, and you’ll soon get back into the swing of things. Health-wise, as long as you take care of yourself, and you don’t have any ongoing health issues that could affect the pregnancy (or vice versa), I’m sure you’ll be fine. I’d imagine your 8 year old will be an invaluable help with the new baby. I hope it all goes smoothly for you!


  • you will be fine, some people have them at greater gaps. it is just like riding a bike


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