Hi mums. I’m a FTM to a little guy who has just hit two weeks old and was wondering what you would have loved to have known in the first few weeks that you feel is a must for other mums. Anything from handy change room tips, postpartum care you found really helped, to how I can keep my sanity as cluster feeding begins. Unfortunately my mum never saw this chapter in my life so I didn’t get the chance to ask for her advice and wisdom and would love some real talk from this lovely community. Thank you!

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  • So grateful for all the lovely tips, thanks ladies!

  • Ask for help. Don’t assume people will help. If someone says “let me know if you need anything?” Take them up on it and ask them to help clean or do the groceries!

  • My only advice is to remember that they will eventually sleep :)

  • Babies don’t come with instructions so be kind to yourself you’re going to make the odd mistake. Shower him with love and build a strong trusting relationship this will serve you well in the teenage years. Make sure someone takes photos of you with him, mums are all to often behind the camera. Enjoy your baby – they really do grow up sooo fast.

  • Be kind to yourself – those first few weeks are a huge adjustment for you and your baby. Don’t be afraid to ask for/accept help if you need it!
    Trust your own instincts – You know your baby best. If something feels off or you’re unsure, don’t hesitate to contact your pediatrician or seek advice from a healthcare professional.
    Enjoy every minute – it’s cliched, but it truly does go so by so fast!
    Remember, every baby and mom’s experience is unique. Embrace the journey and trust yourself. You’re doing great!

  • Don’t over do it, when baby is sleeping try and rest even if it is to watch a tv show. Remember you have just given birth so let your body take the time to heel.

  • Sleep when your baby sleeps! I didn’t do it but if I get the chance again I really would!

  • Trust your instincts. We’ve all thought we were overreacting or worrying too much but it’s ALWAYS better to be safe than sorry.
    Rest when you can and remember to eat and shower. It’s easy to forgot to take care of yourself during those first few weeks. But you are just as important.
    Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup xx

  • First, I had to work out what FTM meant ????‍♀️ I think it’s first time mum? My advice would be to not sweat the small stuff. Focus on you and bub and your needs, everything else can wait

  • Sleep when baby does, except help, especially from your partner

  • Set boundaries for yourself and family, this is the time where you need to rest and heal no matter what, enjoy this time with your baby and don’t stress you’ve got this because parenting doesn’t come with an instruction manual.

  • More then anything enjoy this time and go with the flow

  • Everybody has advice but no body has your child except you. Every child is different so try different things but do what feels right for you! Don’t second guess how you want to be a parent. You are the parent take it all with a grain of salt but don’t feel pressured to do anything you feel isn’t right for your child. Always seek second opinion if first doesn’t sit right. You are mum or dad not anyone else. Good luck I’ve been doing it for 20 years and I love that I was the parent I wanted to be.

  • Stay well nourished and hydrated and focus on your health and well being. Everything flows on from there.

  • Focus on one day at a time. Time will flash in front of your eyes. Aslong as you / your kids are clean, have clean clothes, something to eat/water to drink…other things can wait!

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