They say rhank you in person. If a gift is sent by post, a phone call to say thank you is made. No letter writing here

There would be a thank you note placed in lolly bags for birthdays, and a verbal thank you for any other occasion.

Generally it’s a face to face ‘thank you for …’ or a phone call.

Yes, my kids do. And also in general daily life my kids write thank you-, love- and sorry letters. I keep them all

No but a phone call to say thank-you is just as good!

My kids usually wrote letters for presents that included saying thank you when they were younger. Now they send a text message :/ I suppose at least they’re still acknowledging the gift giving

Absolutely. All my kids have even from a young age. I think it teaches them to be respectful to their elders as well as appreciative of gifts.

My child is too young for this but I love the idea of it for when he is older. It encourages manners and will assist with his writing skills.

I get my child to txt thank you notes. My children are also taught to say thank you when someone drops them home, when someone gives them something, when someone visits, when someone invites them out to a party, sleepover etc. They know too to say thank you to the coach when training finishes and at the end of games.

With a lot of children these days you are lucky if you get a verbal “thank you”. I occasionally mind 2 children of distant relatives. Their parents always say thank you and they are now teaching the children to say “thank you for caring for me” which I love. They are also being taught to respect “grown ups”. They haven’t quite grasped the meaning of adults yet. They know they go from babies to little girls/boys, big boys/girls, then grown ups. I remember one of them telling me she was a “big school girl”. She was going through a stage of copying what the little children of friends did so she was told she was a big girl – that they don’t do things like that. I hadn’t been warned and had to keep a straight face as she is a very sensitive child. From the elder one I have received special hand made Birthday cards – her own idea. I remember one year when she was 4 y.o. after she opened every present she said “thank you so much”. Even her parents were surprised. But…..4 years down the track although her parents are still just as strict when it comes to good manners she often has to be reminded. It may have something to do with children passing things to each other things at school, I don’t know. Some teachers do silly things in front of kids too. I saw one mucking around and she poked her tongue out at him. Had the child been mine I would have said something, as we don’t allow that behaviour.

I ask my children to write a thank you to grandparents/ aunts/ uncles for birthday/Christmas gifts.

My children are a little young to write thank you letters but always say thanks in person. I’d like to think that as they get older they will write thank you letters. I think it is a nice ‘gift’ for someone to receive.

My kids have written thank you cards in the past , for example for teachers etc., but if these are people you see often , it is just as nice to say them in person . Even though the gesture is nice , it can get a bit too much especially when we have to think a lot during the festive period . Noone that I know have done that in the past .

Also; we send notes and thank you cards and usually a photo with any purchases via gift vouchers.

This is an interesting question. My husband grew up in a family where thank you cards were a must (almost to the point where thank you cards were sent to say thank you for the thank you card…). In my family they were not necessary but we would always call to say thank you if we didn’t receive it in person (and hence couldn’t say thank you at the time). My husband comes from a family with an English background and where British type etiquette is expected. In contrast my family is Italian and as long as we are respectful to each other anything goes really! It is interesting to see the difference in cultures!

Only to friends who come to birthday parties. Other than that, no. We talk with family members and the thank you comes into the calls.

Absolutely – we sit together and write our thank you notes for Christmas and individually for birthday gifts and other gifts. It is so nice to get thank you notes!

no but they say them in person at the time.

For birthdays we generally make a picture with all the kids at the party, and then give a copy to everyone as a thank you note.

Yes indeed, especially if it comes from someone who wasn’t there to be thanked in person. So it’s not daunting, I give them a card each to write in. Master 8 is now writing pretty decent short notes; master 5 still only manages a few words and a drawing (that’s ok, he hasn’t even started school yet), and Miss 3 just scribbles. But I’m teaching them how much fun it can be to write a good thank you.