It’s normal for women to have a lower sex drive than they did prior to their pregnancy. Hormonal changes, lack of sleep, physical changes to their body and adjusting to the needs of a new baby all contribute to a reduction in libido.

Definitely dont feel like having sex as much as before. I think im just so tired i dont want to have sex!! Often it’s when husband wants it. But if he makes an effort to seduce then yea ill do it hahaha.

Definitely recommend going and speaking to your doctor there shouldn’t be any pain with your scar now! I completely get what you are saying and found this after I had my little one. But date nights and really making time for our relationship helped us so much. I didn’t realise how much I had missed the intimate part of our relationship until we started putting more effort in. I feel even closer my partner now

Bruhhh I couldn’t be bothered I was to sleep deprived to even think about that lol I found the mi I pill I was on also brought my sex drive down.

Oh dear you are not alone, that is the last thing I want these days

I’m a mum of a nearly 32yo and nearly 29yo and I still feel like it’s a chore. I avoid as much as I can. There are other relationship issues with me tho, which are the main issues

you need to go and see your Doc. I had major pain and there was no way i could have sex. It was all fixed up with a day surgery to remove the scar tissue.

So glad it’s not something only happening to me

Mum of a 16 month old here! I feel you! You are not alone. After a day with a toddler, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, sex is the last thing I can think about. Went from a high libido person pre birth to a low one after giving birth.

Talk to your partner let him know that you are exhausted. Let him help with the house chores. Taking care of a tod is not only a physical work, it is also emotional and mentally draining.

Also don’t be too hard on yourself. No one is perfect. The house work can wait. Take some quiet 10-30mins each day to meditate or to rest. Put some mask on, put tour legs up, have a cuppa and relax. Happy mum means a happy bub and who knows might be a happy dad haha. Hope that helps

You are not alone and thank you for sharing it as I thought I must be the only weird one!
Its been three years since I had my last baby and I am struggling with this too.
I have tried to change my mind set so it doesn’t keep feeling like a chore to me but am failing.
It affects our relationship hugely as my husband loves sex!
I am just so tired at the end of the day after working fulltime, then coming home to create and cook dinner then get kids ready and into bed.

Yes, I went from having a very high libido to a very low one after having my son. I had a C-section, so it wasn’t stretching or scarring down below that caused it. I don’t know if this is a common occurrence, but I just thought it might be helpful to know you’re not alone in your feelings.

I know how you feel. The last thing I want is being touched when my 7 month has been climbing on me all day.

Yes honey you are not alone! I tell my partner if he does the laundry, cooks dinner and gets the baby to bed I’ll have that energy and desire lol

It’s the tiredness, and feeling like I’ve had people touching me all day long so the last thing I want is another person touching me when I’ve finally got the kids in bed and away from me.

My youngest will be two in Jan and I feel the same, it’s definitely the last thing I think about.
I’m so tired all the time. I have two kids, work part time and the other days I’m doing kids activities like swimming and dancing lessons. Then there’s all the house work. Don’t feel guilty or bad, life gets in the way and it can be hard to get back into the groove of things. I’m sure hubby will understand if you tell him.

It takes time to recover and taking care for a baby can be tiring, be sweet to yourself and open to your husband

100%!! I have a 10 month old and it’s the last thing I think about these days