I was lucky enough to be a stay at home Mum so I did all the night time wakes. I also breast fed and hated to express. I was happy to allow my husband to sleep as he would be up early to go to work.

Under the circumstances I think the mother should be the one getting up during the night.

He should share, but bub is mainly mums job.

No he never helps. Only if the babys are sick and i have twins so its quite hard. But my husband works and i work from home so its justified in his mind anyway.

I exclusively breast fed and was at home so I did all feeds as he worked daily starting early. ???? but if your both are working expressing/formula feeds to be shared in my opinion.

My partner does almost all of the night feeds. Our 10 month old tends to only wake once now, sometimes twice. 3 days a week my partner starts work at 4am but still does the night feed. Im home with 2 under 2 on my own each day so am very thankful I get to rest over night

I’m the same, I wouldn’t feel like I should ask but when I do he also helps out. I think there is a fine balance between when to ask for help and when to try and take everything on board yourself.

no, as a SAHM i handle all night wakes.

My husband does shift work and luckily for me he will still do the night shifts on his off days

Nope. When I had my first he was a dairy farmer. Now hes in IT with my second. And both have been the worst sleepers known to man. I am working part time, but still wake up 3 – 6 times per night (and may I add havent slept through the night in over 6 years)
He has never got up once, not for a nappy change, not for a bottle feed.

I am sahm mum and my husband is working all week so I feel bad asking him to do nights with kids.

I did most of the night wakes but my partner did do it for me sometimes even with work.

Unfortunately for me, no… but I would suggest having a talk to him about this.

During mat leave I had my husband do some night wakes if the baby had been fed and changed and still wouldn’t settle and I was utterly exhausted

Mine does if I ask him to. Sometimes they just need to know we need their help!

I always did it because I was conscience that my hubby would have to work in the morning. He would have though if I had asked him to

He will help sometimes. I breastfeed so he obviously can’t feed baby but he will occasionally change the baby’s nappy.

Nope. My partner did nothing for our kids. It’s caught up with him now they’re adults. They barely speak to him

I did the nights myself but it was my choice. I was also working but my late husband had to be up at 5 so he could get to work by 6. He couldn’t afford to have a lapse of concentration or he could have been seriously injured. I didn’t have to start until 7 and I was only a couple of minutes from work anyway. It worked for us but on the weekends or days he wasn’t working he did everything around the house and would get up during the night and try to settle them.

3 kids and I always did it