My partner works a physical job and also studies at night twice a week.
Because I’m on maternity leave, I feel obligated to do all the night wakes…
My partner never offers, but will do it if I ask/ wake him.

Do you and your partner share task of when your baby wakes at night? Even if he has work the next day

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  • He should share, but bub is mainly mums job.

  • No he never helps. Only if the babys are sick and i have twins so its quite hard. But my husband works and i work from home so its justified in his mind anyway.

  • I exclusively breast fed and was at home so I did all feeds as he worked daily starting early. ???? but if your both are working expressing/formula feeds to be shared in my opinion.

  • My partner does almost all of the night feeds. Our 10 month old tends to only wake once now, sometimes twice. 3 days a week my partner starts work at 4am but still does the night feed. Im home with 2 under 2 on my own each day so am very thankful I get to rest over night

  • I’m the same, I wouldn’t feel like I should ask but when I do he also helps out. I think there is a fine balance between when to ask for help and when to try and take everything on board yourself.

  • no, as a SAHM i handle all night wakes.

  • My husband does shift work and luckily for me he will still do the night shifts on his off days

  • Nope. When I had my first he was a dairy farmer. Now hes in IT with my second. And both have been the worst sleepers known to man. I am working part time, but still wake up 3 – 6 times per night (and may I add havent slept through the night in over 6 years)
    He has never got up once, not for a nappy change, not for a bottle feed.

  • I am sahm mum and my husband is working all week so I feel bad asking him to do nights with kids.

  • I did most of the night wakes but my partner did do it for me sometimes even with work.

  • Unfortunately for me, no… but I would suggest having a talk to him about this.

  • During mat leave I had my husband do some night wakes if the baby had been fed and changed and still wouldn’t settle and I was utterly exhausted

  • Mine does if I ask him to. Sometimes they just need to know we need their help!

  • I always did it because I was conscience that my hubby would have to work in the morning. He would have though if I had asked him to

  • He will help sometimes. I breastfeed so he obviously can’t feed baby but he will occasionally change the baby’s nappy.

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