I agree, I wouldn’t cut your cousin totally out of your life because she made this mistake. In the end, who are we to judge ? we don’t know the full story and we all make mistakes indeed. Nothing with supporting her ex, but maybe don’t turn your back at her

Whatever decision is made do allow time for due consideration of all factors.

If they have kids they’ll need to have an ongoing relationship. Try to find a way to stay civil with both.

Do you need to cut her out all together? Coming from a nonjudgmental stance is more supportive to both parties.

Why can’t you be friends with your cousin and also be friends with her ex husband. If you take sides and things go back to the way they were, it could be very awkward for you. Be friends to both. Unless you don’t like your cousin.

You don’t really know what happened to cause this. You can remain friends with both of them surely. Do what your heart is telling you to do

This is a tricky one and depends on so many variables. Do what feels right for you and what you can live with.

The only people that know the intricacies of a relationship are the ones in it. We always allow time for listening to people and due reflection before making any decisions.

Remember things behind closed doors are not always visuals for everyone to see. Be open and have a conversation with your cousin first before making any harsh decisions.

Keep a open mind. We all make mistakes and have regrets, but relationships are very important.

My opinion is that blood is thicker than water. Yes, your cousin has done the wrong thing, but she is still your cousin and hasn’t done anything that hurts you. I don’t see why you can’t support them both. Just don’t get caught up in it.

My best friend had once an afair with another guy. I chose sides for her partner and supported him, but didn’t stop talking and listening to my best friend

Taking sides in something that has no effect on you is unnecessary. You can be friends with both and you simply tell them that. There is always two sides to every story and two people are hurting. Your cousin may be hurting too and need support. Keep out of it.

Please, remember there are two in a marriage, two sides to every story. So, if you weren’t standing in her shoes, why are you passing a judgment? Be there for your cousin and stop taking sides. Appearances can be deceiving.

It may make things difficult at family events if you are not able to talk with your cousin. I’d be getting her side of the story too. Things are not usually black and white. In the end trust your gut and keep people in your life that you value and that value you.

I guess you can’t help who you love.
You don’t really know what was ha’penny behind closed doors. The marriage may have already been on the rocks. I know a lot of people who stay in loveless marriages because the other party won’t let them leave or they’re scared of what their family will say.
Maybe you should talk to her and find out both sides of the story before jumping to a side when you don’t know what was going on.

I would be staying in touch with her husband myself.

I think her husband needs all the support he can get. Clearly your cousin did not prioritise her family over her affair. She must suffer the consequences. Support your cousin in law and cut out your cousin.

I’m a huge believer of family is who you choose. Surround yourself wiry people you think will be a positive influence in your and your son’s life.

I am however mindful there are issued two sides to a story. Affairs often result after long periods of unhappiness for to many reasons in a relationship. And sometimes just because someone is immature, unethical or self involved.

I don’t think you are in the wrong at all. Especially morally. Do whatever you believe is right and support those who need it.