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It’s a nightmare and such faul language should never come out of such an innocent little girls mouth.!! Pleeaaasseee heeeeellppp.


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  • I would give it as little attention as possible !
    Avoid laughing or getting angry. Stay calm and ignore the word. Give attention and praise when your child uses polite language. If the swearing is because of anger or frustration, you can help your child name those emotions – for example, ‘I can see you’re really angry/frustrated’.
    And obviously, give the good example and don’t swear yourself !
    When there are people / kids coming over the floor who do swear, I say “I’m sorry, but we don’t use these words in our house”.


  • Such a tough one! We had a chat about being mummy and daddy words. Worked in our house .


  • My mum did something similar Mandi 2406 ! When we were little and said something my mum didn’t like she we got soap on the tongue


  • Great response Mandi. It’s worth a try.


  • I tried everything with my youngest and nothing worked. In tge end I told her if she did it again I would put pepper on her tongue. She swore again so I put a bit of pepper on my finger and put it on her tongue and cheek – to this day she hasn’t sworn since and this was over a year ago lol


  • Oh my! Each time you hear her or her friends swear (even if you are in another room) pull them up. Tell them that is not appropriate language. My 15 yo son & his mates swear around each other…can’t stop that. What we can stop is it in our presence. Do not stand for it!


  • Don’t over react, and just calmly tell her that’s not the right word to use. It’ll take one religion, though.


  • It takes a while, but just calmly saying “that’s a grown up word, thanks” eventually worked for me.


  • All children will swear at some time or another- they are after the ‘shock’ factor. The best thing to do is not make a big deal out of it and quietly say ‘that’s not nice we don’t speak like that.’ Hopefully when they realise they are not getting a reaction from you (the one that they expect) it will peeter off. I think consistency is the answer her.


  • Oh I like that one Bela.
    Do hope your little girls language is improving now.


  • I’ve told my son that Santa doesn’t bring presents to anyone who swears and that’s why adults rarely get presents from him at Xmas time. It’s worked well for us so far :)


  • We are having the same problem! My husbands best mate, who is always at our place, drops Fs and Cs all over the place no matter how many times we ask him not to. So of course our son picks it up. I’m so over it!


  • Try to ignore it (trust me easy said then done, especially when your out in public and Bub decides to swear) but hopefully it’s just a stage and will pass.


  • Also look at the programs your kids are watching on television. Choose a different channel when swearing occurs. Idem for music.


  • Her age makes a difference to the strategy you choose. If swearing is part of everyday speech at home then the chances of her not swearing, no matter what you do, are unlikely. But if this is not the case and if she is preschool age try just giving her immediate feedback with a more exciting and playful alternative to use, through modelling. This way she will pick up a wider vocabulary and more acceptable way of expressing herself.


  • First of all set the right example, no swearing in the house by adults.
    Brainstorm with your girl about nice alternatives, make it a game.
    Depending on your girls age, there’s nothing wrong with making rules of the house clear, no swearing being one of them. And nothing wrong with gently correcting her and encouraging her to use one of the other words.


  • soap in the mouth. Swear jar. Ignore her when she speaks and use it. Or trivialise it – “ah haha, that means nothing”. CHange the subject.


  • A professional would probably say to ignore it. Focus on and reward the good behaviour and hopefully the bad behaviour disappears


  • What age is she? What you do or say depends a bit on her stage. I hope you can get on top of it. You know her best but sometimes overreacting is the worst thing to do and just grinds in a behaviour; she needs to know it’s not acceptable, have a consequence (random sometimes works better than the consistent consequence that can become attention seeking), reward for not doing it; given help to express her real frustration and emotions prompting the swearing; alternatives to use that are more socially acceptable; time away from social pressures that might reinforce it; and environment where she doesn’t hear it.. and if she is a teenager point out how swearing could easily get her in trouble when it comes to finding work, since it is not ‘cool’ to swear in most jobs that she might want to have.


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