How do I get my 3 year old to give up the dummy?

Hi I need help or advice.
I have a 3.5 year old have tried everything I can think of to get rid of his dummy. He wont give it up and he screams that much he goes red in the face and vomits he also hits us and himself in the face and on the head. I have tried giving him something else as a comfort but nothing works. Ive tried cutting the end off or putting something yuck on it, I’ve tried the put him in hisown room and let him cry and fall asleep without me or it but he will cry all night and wont stop even when he’s vomiting. we have been able to stop him using it all day and only has it at night but its wrecking his teeth. I dread bed time especially when i cant find it as he hids it when he wakes up. he’s now down to 1 as he has either thrown them out or tried to flush them down the toilet. He is that dependent on it. I want it gone so his teeth can start trying to go back to normal before his adult teeth come in as I dont want him to have to have orthodontic treatment done later in life if we can help it. I need something i haven’t already tried

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- - mom462038 said
  - 02 Apr 2020
    7:24 pm
With my grandson, they traded. You can have this is we can have a dummy. Until he was left with just one that he lost
- - Ellen said
  - 16 Mar 2020
    8:45 am
I think the gradual approach is the fastest and easiest.
Tips for weaning off dummy
Here are some things you can do before you begin to reduce your child’s dummy use:
*Take some pressure off by reminding yourself that sucking a dummy never becomes a lifelong habit. Many children will stop using a dummy by themselves.
*Choose your timing. A period of change or stress for you or your child might not be a good time to give up.
Talk to your child about giving up the dummy, if your child is old enough to understand.
When you and your child are ready to begin, try these ideas:
*Try using the dummy less for comforting during the day. One way to do this is to put the dummy away in a special spot, then get it out only as part of the sleep routine. This will help this process go faster.
*Limit dummy use to certain times and places – for example, the car or cot. This gives your child a chance to get used to being without the dummy.
*Gradually use the dummy less and less when re-settling your child during the night. For example, give the dummy to your child every second time he cries in the night on day two, then every third time on day three, and so on.
Once your child is coping for longer periods without the dummy, set a time and date – then take away the dummy. These ideas might help:
* Mark the occasion of becoming dummy free with a celebration or special reward.
* Try not to turn back. No matter how well you’ve prepared your child for this change, expect some discomfort and some protest.
- - Jennifer said
  - 12 Mar 2020
    2:32 pm
No advice, but good luck. I am trying to get my 2.5 ur old to give it up too
- - jenniw said
  - 12 Mar 2020
    11:21 am
It sounds like you are having a really tough time. My son loved his dummy too but he dropped it while we were out on a bridge when he was about three. We told him it had fallen in the water. I think we had some tears for a night or two but we made it through. I hope that the bedtime gets easier for you.