Potty refusals

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  • I would be doing like so many others and using a toilet seat on the toilet. That’s where your child sees you go and he/she wants to be grown up just like mum and dad.

  • We are toilet training my 3 year old at the moment and she prefers to use the toilet these days rather than the potty. I think because she sees me use the toilet so she wants to copy me. She likes hearing the wee go into the toilet and then flushing it away. We have a kids toilet seat on it that she enjoys using. We’ll see how long this lasts though…
    Good luck!

  • Bribing perhaps or have you tried reading books about toilets or even kids shows where the kids use the toilet? Good luck

  • I won’t say bribery, but motivation! I will also say no pressure. It happens when they’re ready.

  • I have been going through the same thing but I am finding my new reward chart and using smarties and mini m&m’s are working for me right now. Fingers crossed it keeps working!

  • Take pressure off, do not force or go on about it. It may be good to take a break, then gently try again. You may want to take the potty away and go for the toilet. Bunnings has great family toilet seats and you can get a stepping stool with handles.
    Incentives like sticker charts with rewards can work well for the 3-year-old set, as can establishing a regular toilet schedule. We did for example sitting on the toilet before bath, before going out, etc. Also give a sticker for sitting on the toilet with praise and hi five’s and not producing anything. Don’t punish your child, as that can backfire and cause him to resist being toilet trained even more.
    Also you may want to watch some video’s on YouTube Kids together about going to the toilet, set a teddy on the potty and get some cute kids books about toilet training; but again no pressure

  • Don’t panic ! This will not last. It’s just a stage. Try to stay positive about the whole toilet training issue and reward any good behaviour. You could suggest rewards, stickers etc. Another idea is to take advantage of the smaller toilets that are often in parents rooms, like the ones in shopping centres, at the zoo etc. My daughter loved having her own sized toilet. Maybe even let them go to to the shops with you to pick out some new undies. Best wishes with this. It will be okay.

  • Go straight for the toilet. 3 seems too old/big to be using a potty? Step ladder toilet seats work great!

  • Could try a stickers reward chart when the lil one picks the stickers and sticks em themselves. But You can’t stop your 3yo from refusing, they will go through a phase and will go when they are ready too. My now 4yo, was refusing to use the potty or toilet when he was 3.5yrs due to an icident happened at kinder. But leading up to his 4th Birthday, he started to go potty on his own again. The by a week after his birthday, he refused nappies on his own term.
    Don’t feel pressured or stressed, kids will do things when they are ready. And don’t compared your child to other kids cause each kid is different.

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