How to I help my 6 year old accept the man in my life?

Hi there. I have 3 kids; Mr 7, Miss 6 and Mr 4. Miss 6 is giving me a hard time with my new boyfriend. They’ve known him for around 2 months as my friend, and have over the last few weeks have I mentioned that I really like him.
As I was beginning to let them know that, she says to me “We already know he’s your boyfriend! ”
Apparently their father and grandmother searched me on fb and asked the kids who was in my photos. When told he was my friend, they informed them that he must be my boyfriend.
She gets stroppy with him, mad at her brothers for embracing him, and worse started screaming in the car yesterday, I asked him to pull over so we could get out of the car (they just came back from their fathers).
My bf wants to be a part of the family, the boys and I want him to be a part of the family, but my Miss keeps making us all feel uncomfortable. I have tried all the PPP and PME tactics I’ve learned, but nothing works.

I can’t let her run my life, I can’t stand her acting/feeling like this, and I can’t stand the thought of this loving, considerate, giving man being treated like crap for no reason. I just feel so drained.
He hasn’t stayed over while the kids have been home, and we haven’t even kissed infront of them, so it’s not like I’m in her face.

Posted by anon, 26/06/2013

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- - Ellen said
  - 02 Oct 2019
    3:41 am
It’s early days when you know your new boyfriend only for 2 months !
Children love to see their mom and dad together and to be united as a family. Sounds like your wee girl is struggling with the fact that her dad is being replaced by a new boyfriend.
You write you can’t stand her acting/feeling like this, but only with understanding your wee girl and with patience and love you can help her. Make sure to spend enough time with her, play & listen so there is place & space to express her feelings
- - mom81879 said
  - 22 Sep 2015
    12:30 pm
Such a hard question to answer. It would be hard for Miss 6 to be watching another man replace her dad, also hard for you being stopped from moving on with your life. Maybe Miss 6 could live with dad for a while? If not, I guess you just gotta be patient and keep trying
- - mom81879 said
  - 24 Jun 2015
    4:52 pm
Time is the only healer here. Don’t let her dictate too much, but still be aware and considerate of her feelings. Hopefully one day she will come to accept him. For everyone’s sake, I hope this is true
- - ljsalomon said
  - 24 Jan 2014
    1:41 pm
Hope you have found a way to get her to behave better
- - tobysmummy said
  - 09 Jan 2014
    10:02 pm
How tough, hope its all sorted now
- - coppin85 said
  - 31 Dec 2013
    6:55 am
how is it going now?
- - ljsalomon said
  - 29 Dec 2013
    10:22 am
Hope some of the answers have been useful
- - kathryn said
  - 29 Dec 2013
    9:41 am
It is difficult and I hope things worked out for you.
- - meltingmoment said
  - 22 Dec 2013
    9:07 pm
How are things going now?
- - kjgarner said
  - 31 Oct 2013
    11:55 pm
How is everything now?
- - snoopy said
  - 31 Oct 2013
    10:37 pm
I hope you have found some helpful suggestions here.
- - meltingmoment said
  - 30 Oct 2013
    10:31 pm
Hope things are better for you now.
- - snoopy said
  - 21 Oct 2013
    7:32 am
I figure this scenario is pretty normal, my friend has 3 daughters and in her second relationship the eldest daughter was the one to give her new man a hard time, but now they have had more time it is also ok and the daughter is fine with him.
- - missangela said
  - 31 Aug 2013
    10:56 pm
How are you going now. Are things getting better .
- - a-edwards said
  - 27 Aug 2013
    8:53 pm
Have u had any progress? Anything got better
- - curlytops said
  - 24 Aug 2013
    9:52 pm
just wondering how you are going? have you managed to sort things out a bit
- - a-edwards said
  - 23 Aug 2013
    9:49 pm
It’s a really tough one. Have u sat down and had a one on one chat? She may feel as though she might not get as much attention from u if he is the boyfriend
- - yummymum said
  - 13 Aug 2013
    9:36 pm
It probably tough on her too. And dad in her ear won’t help. Maybe you need to take her to counselling. Maybe mummy daughter time. Make her feel special, after all being surrounded by boys is hard. Give it time. She’s still little. She needs time to adjust.
- - vikram77 said
  - 28 Jul 2013
    4:59 am
Maybe she feels threatened that boyfriend will replace dad. Reassure her and ask your bf to be friends with her.
- - mouse said
  - 02 Jul 2013
    1:48 pm
Give him time, he is still a baby and doesn’t understand any of what is going on. To him mummy and daddy are mummy and daddy and someone else being there doesn’t feel right. In time he will adjust