Hello!

I have a son who is 8 years old with such a wonderful personality and humour. But lately he seems to be doing the very opposite of what I ask, he doesn’t remember what he learnt at school, seems not care about the time and moves in a very slow pace when doing anything. I am worried about him and would appreciate any suggestions to help my 8 year old son.

Posted by anon 21/06/2013

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  • It’s just the age, and been at school he see wat other kids do


  • I would make an appointment with a paediatrician first thing and take it from there


  • its a phase, my 10yr old is doing it at the moment, I take privileges off him till he can show that he has learnt from the mistake


  • Has something upset him recently at school Talk to him


  • Clearly its something u need to discuss with him


  • Definitely talk to him, and see if anything is going on that hes not telling you about. Take him to the beach or park and spend some one on one time together to see if he’ll open up. Hope things have improved.


  • Talk to him and spend some time with him alone


  • Is there something behind his actions? I would want to have a talk and see if there is anything going on at school.


  • Do u think something like bullying is goin on at school?


  • Not uncommon in prepubescent boys, but if you are concerned have a chat with your GP


  • Have you tried sitting down having a one on one conversation with him to make sure there isn’t a reason behind it like being bullied at school, feeling left out etc he must be down and rebelling for a reason find out what’s bothering him, and good luck tell him to keep his chin up, :-D


  • maybe he’s just bored or something is distracting/upsetting him at school. try to talk to him openly and encourage him to learn in different ways. if you are concerned about his health seek medical attention xo hope this helps


  • Always talk to him first before going to a Dr. It might be as simple as he had a fight with his friend, by speaking openly with him you can then decide whether he needs to see a professional or not :)


  • Maybe take him out and spend some time with him. He is getting older and his personality will change.
    Has something upset him maybe at school ?
    If you have fun with him you might find he will open up to you.


  • What are the things he most enjoys that make him the happiest? I would perhaps try to draw him out by focussing on these. Sometimes if my 9 year old son seems down in the dumps or not himself, I try and stimulate him by asking him something about Minecraft, which he loves, or any kind of Apple technology that he’s dreaming of for Christmas, and he’ll lighten up and chat at length and perk up. Having said that, only you know your son enough to know if something is deeply off, and you may feel better discussing it with a health professional, just to rule out any physical or psychological problems…otherwise he may just be going through a phase.


  • I’d take him to a doctor & express your concerns as he could be having issues at school or elsewhere. Maybe a counsellor could also help, the school may be the best place to start, lots of things happen in the school yard :)


  • I would also get a gp to check him over, it may be nothing but it would be good to rule out any medical cause, and also it will help you to deal with this behaviour i.e. if it is medical, getting annoyed with him may cause more harm than good


  • I would get him checked by your GP as well, he could have a hearing problem or something wrong with his middle ear which is making him dizzy thus the slow pace and if he isn’t hearing everything properly then he wont remember what he learnt


  • He might be growing and doesn’t have enough energy to do stuff cause all his energy is being put into growing. If your concerned talk to your doctor about it


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