I think you yourself can’t make her stop. She’s your mum, a grown adult, who knows about all the reasons why she shouldn’t smoke, but chooses to smoke; she and only she can make that decision.
Actually I think it could be quite annoying when you keep talking about it. The only thing you can ask her is not to smoke around you and your child.

Im sorry to say but no matter what, its not your place to ask someone to quit! its an addiction, they have to want to do it for their own reasons. You can show her the reasons, ie family, money etc but unless she is ready and wants to she will resent you

Perhaps she could try an e-cigarette to see if that helps with the addiction.

The best way for me was to do it for my little boy – I didn’t want him to have to smell it/breathe it etc.

Personally I quit cold turkey and never looked back once. However for someone who doesn’t have this kind of reason to do it could find it difficult. Let her know that you know she is suffering and it frightens you, and remind her that she promised to quit once your girl was born and that she hasn’t yet. Remind her that her granddaugter wants to have her Grammy around as she grows up. It may help

I think your mum needs to be ready to commit to quitting smoking before she can actually start to quit smoking. Unfortunately there is a lot of evidence to suggest that shock tactics don’t work with quitting smoking. Perhaps you’re best to go to a psychologist to talk about ways of dealing with behaviour modification and I think there’s also a government program to help with quitting smoking. I hope you can pick up some ideas from MoM answers to help her starting.

Like another mom a young Mum I know gave up smoking while she was pregnant, and eventually permanently. As a reward, the grandparents minded the two children (past the baby stage) and her husband took her away on a short cruise. In actual fact she had saved that amount of money by not smoking. A couple of years later they went on a longer cruise whilst the grandparents minded the children who were older and more independent by then which made it easier for the grandparents.
A friend I know was a heavy smoker. Her husband died from Lung Cancer – he was a chain smoker. The parents of the grandchildren gave her an ultimatum to give up smoking as they were worried she would succumb to cancer too and they would not allow their children near the smoking air. It is scary seeing babies/ toddlers etc. in hospitals from breathing cigarette smoke. One Mum was actually smoking while breastfeeding her baby. The baby was inhaling the smoke while trying to feed. I agree, give support to those who attempt and hopefully succeed. If you are a Mum think of the welfare of your children. One of the girls I went to school with wheezed if her father was near her when he smoked.

Apparently it is one of the most difficult habits to break. Is there some incentive you can offer her? But you do need to tell her how you feel and you are worried about her. good luck as you don’t want to upset your relationship with her.

It is difficult to convince someone to give up if they are not ready. You can tell her how you feel about the situation and be there to support her decision.

i had a mate get told to take a walk through the hospital, from her doc. apparently most of the ward was filled due to smoking issues. scared my mate, off the ciggies!

The best thing about family is that you can be honest to the point of being brutal. If it were my mum I’d harass her until she came to her senses. I’d bombard her with information and statistics and not to mention playing the guilt card about exposing my kids to second hand smoke.
I appreciate that others might not have the same type of relationship with their mums but if you think you can be brutally honest and still maintain your relationship then I’d do it. I’d think twice if I thought it would put a wedge in the relationship though.
Good luck with it. I hope your mum’s cough is better soon.

I gave up almost a year ago now and I understand the whole 1 or 2 a day to release stress. I bought a boxing bag instead. But the real truth is you unfortuantely can’t make any quit, it has to tbe their choice otherwise it won’t work. good luck.

With any addiction you can’t make someone stop just by telling them to do so or give them a lecture on what may happen if they don’t stop. Instead try talking to them about how it makes you feel and the fact that her cough hasn’t subsided. Hopefully she then won’t feel judged or guilted. Try to come up with ideas with her to reduce her stress in other ways! All the best!

Maybe just reiterate the risks associated with smoking. My dad was a heavy smoker and it wasn’t until he had a health scare that resulted in a quadruple bypass that he finally quit. So maybe she needs to come to the realisation that her bad habit may shorten her life and she will miss out on seeing her granddaughter grow up.

There are so many methods at the chemist-patches,gum.tablets etc but she has to decide to give up or there is no point.I must say 1 a day is far better than a packet a day so she is doing so well compared to other smokers.

My husband smoked (or is a smoker who is quitting again) and I have found that the nagging etc did nothing to get him to stop. In the end I think the trigger for him was our boys telling him they didn’t want him to die (a friend not much older than us died).
I haven’t mentioned his smoking for maybe years now and realize that it has to be a self driven need to stop.

Finding alternatives to deal with her stress is a good idea and maybe explore this avenue too. A counsellor can help with alternatives and this may help your mum along with quit smoking resources.

you can only speak from your heart and tell her exactly how you are feeling and how much it worries you,if it’s not enough for them then nothing will help them quit untill they really want to themselves.good luck

I know it must be frustrating but I have always been told for them to quit and stay off the smokes they have to want to do it themself. I was lucky, my partner wanted to quit so he just went cold turkey. But I would say things like instead of wasting that money you could buy your kids… or we could save for thid etc. Good luck

Trying to encourage my husband to stop smoking quite some time ago a friend explained it doesn’t matter how much you want him to stop smoking he has to want to stop and told me I was just wasting my time.
My sister told me once that you only need the right fright to stop!
Good luck with this.

Maybe contact agencies that help people with quitting smoking as they should have plenty of free sources. You could give the free resources to your mum and discuss them with her. Once she has the resources it may help? Knowledge can often be the key in overcoming addictions.