Prepare your toddler with books and role play on the arrival of a sibling
Involve your toddler in the care of the baby
I made a special box for my toddler for when I was breastfeeding the newborn. The box contained new toys and activities, a baby doll with clothes, rocker, nappies, bottles and all you need, touch and feel books etc

1. Don’t be hard one yourself,

2. I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer to this as every child can be so different. I’d say just make sure the toddler gets the attention needs have Special activities that they can do.
Let them help if they want to help.
Take them for a walk before or after lunch if you can manage to get some of the energy out!

So tough. Time management is key. Make sure you “do” things with the toddler while the baby is asleep. If the baby is feeding, pull the toddler onto your lap and read a story. Include the toddler with simple tasks, getting a dummy, nappy, packet of wet wipes etc. But specific time with the toddler. Acknowledge them, and tell them you love them, explain to them that the baby needs more time, at the moment, because they can’t do much for themselves and we need to help them. Slow cooker is my favorite friend, as it allows me to throw all items in, and do it, while I’m feeding both, or while they are sleeping etc.

Following this thread as this will be me very soon!!!
My guess is just making sure your toddler still feels love and gets attention.
I know it will be hard but that’s when dad comes in handy. I think letting him take some responsibility and letting them have some bonding time together will let you have a bit more time with bub.

This was me 8 months ago when my youngest was born. I gave them both equal attention and set aside my own time with my toddler to remind her I’m still here for her too. Letting them help as much as possible makes the, feel included and soon enough they will feel protective Of their sibling!

It’s tough. Cook while they sleep if your toddler still naps! I would put stews on for dinner or make stuff I could reheat. It’s a tough phase but so worth it when they start playing together