Honestly… don’t. Just enjoy Christmas at home with your own family or maybe go away somewheretogether. Sometimes the drama just isn’t worth your peace of mind..

How can your cousins wife take someone’s home? If she kicked them out of hers, does she not have that right?

Perhaps not taking sides is the besy

I would suggest show up and be supportive of your family members. Clearly the dramas are not their fault but those of the spouses they married. At this time especially they need to know they have the support of family.

Definitely keep to yourself and don’t get involved it there problems

Distance yourself from the drama is best and we recently went through it last year so my family and I took off to New Zealand for christmas and New year best time ever with no dramas.Sometimes, you have to do things for your family and zone out from dramatic families????

When we used to have the whole family and their miseries around for Christmas, I always made sure I had lots to do in the kitchen and could walk off quickly to attend to something when any unpleasantness arose. Don’t have those sort of get togethers anymore thank heavens.

How did it end up going? X

i would like to how did you go thorough the festive season with your family

Best way to be, dump them. You end up getting to a stage where it’s affecting your mental and physical health.

Stay natural, go enjoy it and try and put yourself in their shoes. It’s awkward all round.

I hope your family managed to find some peace so your Christmas went well xx

This sounds like an awful situation to be in – and especially at christmas time 🙁 Just keep not getting involved or it will get worse for you. I really hope that you were able to enjoy your christmas x

Try to stay neutral if you can. Go for a walk if it gets too much.

Think of the ones that are actually going through these dramas and support them with love and joy at Christmas. Try to make it nice for them.

Luckily there is no drama on my side. But on my husband’s side there is. I’m staying out of it. Don’t like drama.

Yes my sister and her family dont even bother to come to see me at Christmas it has been like 4 years now since I have seen her they all stopped coming since the passing of our parents

If you dont want to deal with it then have Christmas at your place and only invite those you want to be around.

We decided many years ago to step away from any type of toxic drama and focus on our family and positive interactions and a positive and productive life and avoid negative and toxic drama.
We always do Christmas on our terms and set firm boundaries, people can be involved as long as drama is not involved. Our time together is precious and we do not want it to be marred by others poor choices and behaviours. If events, get togethers turn unpleasant we politely pack up and leave. We always have a strategy before attending any event; family, friend or work related. Everyone has the right to leave an unpleasant get together/situation and to enjoy their Christmas and their lives on their terms. Good luck and enjoy your Christmas with your family.

As others have suggested, you might want to focus on the family within your household over Christmas and the new year to avoid the fray.
I would find it hard to not advocate for the wronged parties. I mean it’s pretty outrageous to attend a Chrissy event with family if you’re the reason other family members are without a home. But I can absolutely understand wanting to avoid it all.

Camping with just your own little family can be exciting and a wonderful way to avoid the chaos of a bigger family Christmas. If that’s not possible…..One year I organised a heap of games for us all to play. With the focus being on fun and silly. That kept everyone distracted and not able to chat about all the family infighting going on. Enjoy the time with your loved ones when you can 🙂