Hello!

Kids or no kids, I’d love to know. I’m getting married and moving out soon. My fiancé and I both work full time and after a long day at work (I’m a teacher), I cannot imagine cleaning the house and cooking dinner. I know it has to get done so maybe that’s good motivation but do you have any tips?


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  • It’s a constant struggle. I’m working full time with 4 children at the moment, and a few things I find helpful are:
    Meal planning and meal prepping – I set aside time on a Sunday morning to get all my meal prepping done for the week, it helps on those nights when you cannot be bothered after work to be able to heat something up.
    I find if I do a little bit of laundry every night, it doesn’t pile up into an unmanageable mess.
    Split the chores – I give my husband a list of things to complete every week

    Prior to children, I would set aside a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday to get all my housework and meal prepping done.


  • If your struggling at the start and can afford to, maybe suggest getting a cleaner in for a hour a week or so, to lighted the load. If not, you will find a way to make a new routine. It just takes 21 days to set a new habit and make it a routine. You can do it. You got this.


  • I think one of the most important things about this is balance and compromise between you and your partner to ensure you both get the time you need to also let yourselves have some relaxation time to yourselves.


  • I do my meal planning each week and check out the specials ready for click and collect at the end of the week.
    I usually do the laundry during the week but leave the full house clean for the weekends.
    I have kids so I try and get the vacuum going everyday. Sometimes it doesn’t always happen depending on how much time I have at the end of the day and how much mess they make but I usually try and just get everything off the floor so I can get it done.


  • I found using a meal service like everyplate or hellofresh really helped our household get into the routine of cooking every night.


  • I try to cook/prepare enough in each meal for another and we have leftovers every other night.
    I always clean as I go, wash dishes as i go. Put the laundry on when I take dirty clothes to the laundry. Just don’t waste those moments when you are standing around waiting for a load to finish or a dish to cook.


  • 6 month old baby.
    Once he’s down I spend 20 minutes cleaning up.


  • There are lots of cleaning hacks on YouTube to help help make you get through chores quicker. Is there enough time in the morning to put on a quick load of washing? Could you get up half an hour earlier and do a few quick chores. You could try a slow cooker for meals. If you put it on in the morning it will be cooked and ready to go when you come home. You could try do a really big clean over the weekend but who wants to spend their weekends doing chores?


  • It’s hard work, I have three boys and both of us work full-time.
    You need to have set days for some of those chores,
    Take turns in cooking and picking stuff up from the supermarket with your partner or do you really need it.
    You could always pre make meals, or at least pre prep meals


  • Planning. Planning is so important. Meal plan so you don’t have to make decisions when you’re tired. Consider making a few meals in advance on weekends (on many weekdays I chuck some vegies in the steamer and heat up a main meal that’s already made). And use small bits of time – eg while waiting for the kettle to boil, clean a bit of the kitchen.


  • I watched a great video the other day on this topic. Basically if you are thriving in one area, you’re making a sacrifice in the other. Ultimately you have to decide what is best for your family and you. Do you want to be the mum who works hard or the Mum who makes it to every soccer game? I try to just make a balance because we can’t give everything 100% it’s just impossible


  • We do a meal delivery service a few nights a week, that take the pressure off of cooking. With cleaning I schedule a time on the weekend to do it. Just be realistic and flexible. Nothing has to be perfect. You could also consider getting in a cleaning company to help out, even once a fortnight.


  • I stock up in frozen stuff, only used ideas her safe cutlery plates etc, bathe kids together at the same time , prepare list of priorities


  • While on a teachers wage and working full time, I set aside an amount for a cleaner (weekly or fortnightly depending on my budget) and got hellofresh or similar meal boxes to cut shopping and meal decision making time right down.


  • It is challenging to work, be a good partner/friend and look after a baby all at the same time. Routines help make create a balance for me. Also, easing back into work helped me adjust- I am still working part-time after having my baby. Cannot imagine being fill-time right now.


  • First of all without kids your house will get less dirty :)
    My suggestion is clean on the go; you’ve used your breakfast ? directly tidy the breakfast table and wash your bowl and cup. Wipe spill straight away. Clean the shower cabin, whilst you’re under the shower, wipe the sink after brushing teeth, etc. In regards to cooking you could consider to cook in the weekend and freeze it. Alternatively always cook double portions and freeze the half


  • You will both manage. When I was working fulltime, studying via correspondence, two children in our home of 4, we made it work, amazing what you can do when you need to. Plan, prep, and think ahead. Get your partner to help, share the work. Do up a schedule if you need to, but most of all, don’t panic.


  • Prep meals as much as possible, and do the bare minimum cleaning!


  • If you’re moving in with a partner, all household chores should be don’t equally by both of you. Grown adults should have the skills to adult successfully in their homes.
    Meal prepping can be a lifesaver.
    Spend a weekend with your partner shopping and cooking meals to freeze. There are heaps of resources for cooking for 2 if it’s just the 2 of you. All you need to do then is put something in the over and relax til dinner. Or utilise a slow cooker.
    Scheduling immediate daily cleaning chores, things that can wait til the weekend and others that can be done monthly or annually will keep you both on track.
    If you keep on top of the small things, they don’t become big things.


  • Honestly if you don’t have kids its not that bad, just stay organised and don’t let little things build up. There’s lots of pre prepared healthy meals you can use if you really don’t want to cook, put the dishes straight into the dishwasher and if you are both working full time and can afford it maybe get a cleaner in once a week or fortnight to do things like bathrooms and floors. Once you have kids its a different story lol..


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