I would be as honest as possible with little space for your little one to create another fantasy about it. For example when you say he’s gone and never will come back, you little one may think “he doesn’t want to spend time with me, I’m not important enough’ or something along the line. I got some books from the funeral home to explain to my youngest

That is such a horrible situation to be in. I’d suggest talking to a psychologist or counsellor about the best way to do it and maybe look into social stories as a way to talk about it.

There are also helpful books on the market. Also movies could help with grief
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/12/at-home/grief-films-for-children.html

Yes, reading your question I wondered as well my how old your daugther is. I noticed as well you talk about the father of your daughter and not of your partner/husband suggesting you weren’t together anymore.
I agree to be open with your daughter and depending how close you and she were to him this will be harder or easier to process. Get help when you feel you need it !

Be open and Honest with her as you did not mention her age it’s hard

You don’t mention the age of your daughter, which would be helpful when offering you advice, you also don’t mention whether you are separated from him. Which doesn’t make a lot of difference, but could help

Luckily, my kids never experienced this. My nieces did though. My sister sat them on her lap and said dad had a heart attack and they couldn’t save him. They were 9 and 11 so they understood. It helped that they were surrounded by loving family at the time of being told and for the following months

You did not say how old your child is? so that makes a difference as to there ability to understand.My advice if asked where Daddy has gone, is to say that he was very ill and had to go, to heaven or become a twinkling star that watches over you at night, always with you as he loved you very much but was to hard for him to stay, always in your heart anyway. Used to talk and still do to my Dad in thought. As he was special to me,feel with me still and talk about him and fun times we shared

I am so so sorry for your loss. Perhaps contact a child psychologist or counsellor to help guide you both through this difficult time.

I am so terribly sorry for yours & your daughters loss.
I can not even begin to imagine what you both are going through.
Books are helpful but if your daughter is school age perhaps they have a counsellor they could offer?
You could also make a special rememberance place in your garden for your daughter to go to when she wants to be close to her Dad. Get her to make it with you the way she wants it to be, it will help with her grieving & acceptance.
It must be very hard for her to accept her Dad is not coming back, be patient, it’s not going to happen over night. Be there for one another & support one another, I am sure that would be what he would have wanted.
Best of luck.

Such a crappy situation. Don’t know what else to say.. Speechless. Sorry

I am so sorry for your loss, I could not imagine how hard it must be for you especially when your child asks for their dad. My thoughts are with you xx

I’m really so sorry for your loss. I can see some suggestions,

Sending love and hugs your way SHELLEY SHELLEY, and hoping all the responses from the moms has helped…Naomi link is wonderful.
All the very best to you and your little princess. xx

Thank you Naomi, I will look it up. Very much appreciated x

This is also a good article http://drkaylenehenderson.com/talking-with-young-children-about-death/

I’m so sorry for your loss. You have been given great suggestions from MOMs. I don’t know your daughters age, but there are books available to help

explain to your child in age appropriate terms. Keep it simple.

Have a look in the library for some kids books on loss (librarian should be able to help find some). Have a read and tall about what it means to die. Chat about how we celebrate life. Chat about not fearing death because we all die but we have a chance to live a good life and that’s what we should focus on. Answer any questions she has.
And if the question of where is dad keeps being asked, keep gently letting Your daughter know that he has passed away and isn’t around anymore. Let her know it’s not because he doesn’t love her. It’s a hard time.

Sorry to hear of your loss. You just have to be truthful to your daughter and tell her what you feel she will understand. Your have had a lot of suggestions already to choose from, but above all be honest and keep hugging and loving your daughter.