In specific with my youngest I give positive instruction when she hits/bites: I tell her what to do and not what not to do (like gentle hands, getle feet, gentle mouth please) or I ask her the question if this is a good choice or a poor choice / thumbs up or thumbs down – making her aware of her behaviour

I have no idea, but l am in the same boat. Wishing you all the best. Youre doing well.

My children all fought and these days they are pretty close, however I did find that punishments such as no TV or treats only made them fight behind our backs. If they are physical in front of you just pull them apart and tell them it’s wrong and one day it will all just stop.

My kids do this all the time.
We just pull them apart and tell them sternly that that’s not nice.
My hubby has 3 sisters and said he used to fight with them like this whole growing up whereas in an only child so have no clue!

Personally I never punished when my kids became physical. Most of the time I would pull them apart when younger and when older just verbally tell them to quit it and then have a chat about it later when all are cooled down

violence is never okay, reacting with physical punishment such as smacking is only going to reinforce the fact that it’s okay to be physical with another person.
I think it’s definitely normal for siblings to fight. However, they has to be some boundaries for them to know it’s not okay to hurt each other.
Time in with each of them to develop better strategies with dealing with these big emotions when triggered by each other may be helpful.

My brothers and I fought constantly, full on fist fights, so I see this as pretty normal for siblings.

i used to fight with my brother all the time, home devils and street angels mum used to call us, lucky we had 100 acres of property to run around and cause trouble on. Not sure what you can really do about them being violent with each other, explain what defending yourself is, and what picking a fight is, kids will retaliate.

I go through the same issue. My 9yo and 4yo son’s fight. My 9yo has been told to not retaliate as he could do more harm as his bigger.
But still, they hit, kick, punch and bite.
Our punishment is, banned from TV, devices. No special privileges and no special treats. For my oldest, it could also be no money for the canteen.
Siblings will always fight and yes, they do grow up to be best mates but all depends on the parenting of the times they had fought. Can’t take sides, have to sometimes punish them both, it does hurt but the one who was not in the wrong, learns why .

My sons have grown up now, but when they were younger, they did fight. One time I’d had enough and told them to get out the back and fight each other while I supervised. Well, all they could do was laugh and then they didn’t fight again for a while. I’m not saying this would work for everyone, but it did work for me at the time.

Time out or removing favourite items as punishment. Violence is not OK.

My two fight. If we catch them in the act we usually punish by a good smack on the bum and firmly tell them it’s not acceptable behaviour. It generally stops them in their tracks. They’ll grow out of it eventually. At other times they play and are the best of friends.

My only advice would be to tell them that hitting (violence) is never okay. It will pass.

I made my kids stand in the corner facing each other and no talking .This was the worst punishment for them and did not take long to bring them in to line . If all else fails don’t worry it will pass