Congratulations. I hope it all works out. Hopefully your partner can step in during visits if their behaviour is not acceptable and allow you and the bubs to have some space. Sounds like one of the step children is at least 20ish so surley they would hopefully be able to help too.

You’re probably going to have to be very blunt. Say you’re a different parent, and your child will therefore be raised differently because of that. Try not to sound judgemental about Stepmothers’ parenting. And then stick to your guns.

Your husband needs to sit down with them and let them know you are both serious about how your baby will he raised and they need to respect your choices and boundaries. He needs to let the eldest know, if they want to have a healthy realtionship with their sibling, they need to set an example for the younger ones.. especially if ex wife is going to act dismissive etc.

I think the parent who is the biological parent needs to have that conversation, not you as the step parent. I think its great to have rules, especially if you have noticed that they are rude, but involve the biological parent in this as well. Perhaps it’s a good time to shape the behaviour of the step children.

I don’t get any sense of inclusion from you for the “step children”. Perhaps find a more inclusive approach rather then treating them like any other visitor. You come across that you were already on the opposites to them. This is their sibling and you’ve straight up created rules and conditions. You’ve not at all mentioned how you will start their relationship, just what they have to do to see their sibling. I’d look at your own perspective first. It’s all you can control and this relationship is not an optional extra. You are part of their family and they a part of yours.

It sounds as though your step children are adults, or nearly so, if there’s a 20 year age gap. There’s not a lot you can do other then tell them you’d love them to have a relationship with the baby, but your priority will be looking after the baby – who is not old enough to look out for themself.

This is your baby and you are doing all you can to keep them safe and healthy. Unfortunately it will be their loss if they don’t do as you ask. I would put my child’s health before anyone else’s feelings. It’s wonderful that your husband agrees with you and if the other family members don’t get to see your new-born it’s their loss.

It’s your home and your child. I would keep your rules in place and allow the children time there but keep an eye on things. Hopefully the mother can stop being so petty and the children will grow close to their new sibling. I had a new Baby with step children in the picture and they love her so much now.

At the end of the day, YOU are this child’s (your baby’s) parent. Your husband, of course, needs to agree with how you are to raise them, but at the end of the day, the siblings and their mother need to respect how you wish to bring up your child. I would be allowing visitation, but observing behaviour. If they are doing things that you don’t like, correct them, the same way you would anyone else. If they won’t get vaccinated or are sick, don’t allow them to visit. At the end of the day, if they want to have a relationship with their brother or sister, they will.

Personally I would stick to the rules, but don’t worry too much about it at this point of time, instead focus on your pregnancy. Since you have a high risk pregnancy you should refrain as much as possible from stress. You never know when the baby is born, the half sibling start to develop a soft and gentle side

Oh boy! Congratulations! But firstly didn’t they think the possibility of a baby could be on the cards. You have every right to ask your step “children” to tone down their behaviour while in your home. Especially when there is an impressionable child at risk. In saying that, these are your partners children and putting their relationship at risk would be awful. I’m sorry but it sounds like these kids weren’t taught respect for other people in the first place. And it’s kinda like shutting the barn door after the horse has already bolted. The only thing I can suggest is a rewards system (without letting them know you’re doing it). Like suggesting a shopping trip if they’ve been well behaved or a nice dessert. Then the next time they’ve behaved badly say you couldn’t be bothered cooking dinner and there’s bread and vegemite if they’re hungry. Good luck!

Firstly congratulations! Secondly I know the feeling (similar situation except mine is utterly confusing haha). We are yet to tell his ex but already know she is going to be very angry/upset/jealous because that’s the way she is. I don’t have any suggestions for you other than you do you Mumma and look after your bubba.

Congratulations! It’s such an exciting time, try to ignore the drama and focus on keeping yourself and bub well for the remainder of the pregnancy. I have been the step kid with a younger sibling on the way, my youngest sister was born when I was 19… Babies have a way of bringing out the best in people. Hubby seems very supportive, let him handle the drama. I agree you should try to include the kids in choosing a few special items, but at the end of the day you can’t force them to change their feelings. Hopefully time will resolve most of it, in the meantime just take it one day at a time. All the best for your delivery and settling in with bub.

Don’t stress your self over this too much. High risk pregnancy you need to relax. Concentrate on you and babies health. Once baby arrives see how you go. Your rules in your house should have nothing to do with these kids mother and only to do with there dad and you.

I think firstly you need to be congratulated. In the end this is your child and you get to set the rules and if this mum of the other children isn’t taking this onboard then that is not fair and the father needs to step in and have another word with her. I am sure once you get into a routine, your rules can be adjusted but i am sure you need the transition period to get on your feet with the new baby. Perhaps just take each day as it comes and see how you are feeling? Good luck

If I were you, I would be sticking to my rules. The stepchildren are now almost fully grown with two decades separating your child and maybe children from them. As adults it is about time they learned that things they say and do can be detrimental to a newborn growing young person. Personally it sounds to me like ‘sour grapes’ on the part of their mother .

Congratulations! I’m sorry this special time has also brought on some unneeded stress. The push back your feeling from the stepkids could be them adjusting to the idea of another baby in the family. Give them time, once your little one is here there is a strong chance they will be smitten with bub. Treat them exactly how you did before, and try to help them feel included. Let them pick out some special things for the baby. It sounds like some of these kids are adults, they might need time to understand change out of their control. You don’t want to unknowingly create any resentment between the kids feeling like your baby will get more attention. With their Mum, I would maintain a strong front and keep your boundaries in place. We waited a few weeks before any visits, both to protect bub and give me a second to recover. If you want no visitors, make sure your husband goes to visit the kids. I would direct any disagreements with the kids mum to your husband. You don’t need that stress. The future of their relationships won’t be ruined by missing a few weeks. They have a lifetime.