Hi mummy I can understand your frustration. If you have ruled out any possible medical issue then unfortunately it’s a maturity thing and boys tend to take a little longer than girls to mature. You could possibly try a bed wetting alarm and see if you can help that way but it may just be a waiting game

Firstly, hang in there mumma as you’re doing a great job. As mentioned in other comments each child is different. Some pick it up easily and quite early on, others take some time. We’re potty training at the moment. Our 5 year old still wears pull ups to bed with no sign of slowing down any time soon. Our 3 year old is almost fully trained and rarely wakes up with a wet nappy. Our 3 year old though doesn’t want to sleep in undies yet though so we’re not pushing it.

I remember my brother being a bed wetter untill he was 10 or 11 years old. I remember my Mum buying this alarm that would wake him up if it detected moisture and he would have to change in the middle of the night. My brother eventually stopped wetting the bed.

Every child is different and it took me two tries to get my daughter to train. We successfully did it but then went on holiday and it went backwards and she didn’t want to try again for ages. I created a fun treasure box and let her buy some things she wanted for the box. At the end of the week she got to pick something out of it and she loved that. Find something your son loves and make this pet of it, whether it be a trip to marinades once a week to have an ice cream or do a fun activity he likes, this might work, it thankfully worked for my daughter. Good luck.

Nighttime potty training takes time, so be patient. Try limiting liquids before bed and use a reward system for dry nights. A waterproof mattress protector can also help with cleanup. He’ll get there.

Thanks ellen , what you wrote sounds very encouraging that they do discontinue it by themselves eventually. Last night I did wee him before bed ( as well as every night )and overnight first time , he did agree and went to the toilet with me. I feel like I’m getting somewhere now.

Nocturnal enuresis is also called “bed-wetting,” because it happens during the night while a child is sleeping. Bed-wetting is fairly common; about 5 million to 7 million children wet the bed. It may happen more often in boys than in girls.
My son regularly wet the bed till about age 10. We didn’t make a big deal of it. It discontinued on it’s own.
We had an incontinence sheet on his bed, no pull ups or nappies.
We encouraged not to drink after 5-6pm or so. We took him to the toilet before we went to bed. When he had an accident during the night I never spoke a negative word. We would just take the bedding off together, pop it into the washing machine and make the bed.

Im just trying to slowly wean him off nappies so it’s only weekend and at night I put it on to give him a break from toilet training which he does weekday nights. I know everyone gets there at their own rate toilet training, but just asking if there a strategy that works for boys at night that helps guide them to wake up and know to go to the toilet themself instead of wetting the bed would be good.

We used the Bed Wetting Enuresis Alarm Success Package from the parenting garden.com.au with great success. It clips onto their undies and a band around their arm. They have to manage it themselves, change themselves etc. All part of the process. It worked within the 14 days as recommended. He did have an odd accident a few months later but all is still good. When wetting s detected it sounds an alarm, flashes a light and vibrates on their arm. (Still slept through at first lol).

I take it that you have spoken to your local GP about this and have rules out any medical issue?
If you have then as hard as it is just dont stress over it. Im not sure why you only put him in night nappies on the weekend? Perhaps do this every night. He will get there in time.