I have an autistic 9 year old son who has started to get bullied at school. We have spoken with teachers and he’s specialist and they are trying to help him not retaliate and stop the boys doing it. He has trouble expressing himself when he gets to the point these boys are making him. Would love any suggestions on what you gave your child on how to deal with bully’s mentally and to try to stop him from retaliating.

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  • A psychologist to teach regulation, and explaining to him that he is different and that’s ok.

  • The school really needs to get on board here and you need to be involved. My son was bullied terribly, and we would teach him to deal with it, until that didn’t work. In the end, we moved schools as the school was incapable of dealing with it. Kids can be so nasty towards someone that is different. You are your child’s greatest advocate. They still need you in this instance.

  • Children always seem to pick on those that are different to the norm. Do hope you find a solution that will be suitable for your son as everyone is different and works for one, won’t necessarily work for the next. Some good replies for you on here. Cheers

  • I am currently dealing with this problem.My son not in to bulling.But he involve with a incident at school because of other kids did something to him.We are currently talking about this with his school teachers.

  • I would suggest social stories for your son – a story written or comic drawn to show the situation (ie the boys bullying him) and what he could do. I guess I would get black and white instructions from the Principal on what to do – I think all schools now have a zero tolerance on bullying. If it continues and does not get addressed, I would be raising that with the Principal and if you still have no luck, then I would be writing to the Minister of Education about the lack of results / support the school has had with your situation.

  • My son was taught all the right things to do none of which worked. When he finally lost it after nearly 2.5 yrs and punched his bully, the bully backed of. Another year on and they are good friends.

  • For my child with special needs I made a template about her and her condition. It really helped to get her included.
    But it totally depends on the circumstances, what is happening and your child.
    My 16yr is at the moment in a situation that after some friends said we don’t want to be friends anymore, they started to follow her around each day and threaten to beat her up ! She doesn’t dare to talk because the ex friends made very much clear that snitches get stitches…We talked with the GO & the Principal and called her in sick whilst doing online learning, in the hope things will calm down. In the meantime we sought the advice of a psychologist

  • Following! My 4..5 year old autistic daughter is having some troubles. We encourage her to stick with the mind set of ignoring those that have nothing nice to say, and if she ever feels upset enough to then speak to a teacher about the issues.
    It can be so hard especially with the extra difficulties. I hope your son is okay <3

  • I would like to know as well.

  • Aw bless, my heart breaks for your boy. How mean can kids be ! Sounds you’re doing the right thing by talking to school and with his specialist. What has school done so far ? Sometimes it help to make an info sheet about the condition your child has, in this case autism and share it with the staff and the children & their parents of his class.

  • I am so sorry that your family are going through this. I am guessing these boys are aware of the difficulties your son has communicating. It is horrible that children see someone who is different as an easy target to bully. I cant really offer any advice other than make sure your son knows he is loved, which I’m sure he does, make sure he knows home is his safe place and maybe look into ways he can release his hurt, anger and frustrations. Maybe running, meditation or a punching bag which could be a bit controversial. Good luck, I hope you can find a way to make things better for him.

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