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Hi, hoping some MoMs can help. My 17 month old daughter has started to have screaming episodes at night time. They are occurring anywhere from half hour after falling asleep to just after midnight and multiple times during this time, she screams uncontrollably like she is in serious pain but we can’t hold her or calm her at all it just makes her worse. The only calming tool we have is a bottle and this only works after about 15  minutes of screaming. Doctors believe it is probably night terrors. But I feel useless. Does anybody else have any advice or suggestions for dealing with our baby girl. We hate seeing her like this. Nothing has changed in her routine or in the environment she sleeps in.

Posted by Amy, 3/7/2013

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  • Oh my goodness, night terrors at such a young age, scarey stuff for parents! I have no experience with night terrors


  • oh no oh no… have you take her to her dr about this? just to be safe?


  • Has she settled at all yet?


  • how is it going now?


  • i hope it has gotten better


  • We have a similar problem and use distraction methods like knocking on the door, playing her favourite song and keep talking very calmly to her


  • Hope you found the answer you were looking for.


  • Maybe a night light and musical lullaby toy might help


  • What did you end up doing?


  • There is some good advice below – hope some of it has helped.


  • It does sound like night terrors, hopefully they will grow out of it soon.


  • You could get the opinion of another doctor, just in case it is something other than night terrors


  • I hope you were able to resolve the problem with all the useful advice


  • I hope things improve for you. Rach has some helpful info there. None of my children suffer night terrors so can’t really help in that aspect. My daughter does have some night mares that sounds pretty scary n I just make sure she knows I’m there


  • My daughter had the same thing. They seem to grow out of it you just have to watch they don’t hurt themself


  • The clip sounds good to me


  • How is it going with her now?


  • Try a clip on the cot night lullaby projector it might help soothe ;-) hope this helps


  • What are night terrors?
    Night terrors, sometimes referred to as confusional arousal, occur in five to 15 per cent of children between the ages of four and six, though they can appear in babies as young as nine months. Technically speaking, they are caused by partial awakenings from non-REM, or non-dream, sleep. A child in this state may cry, whimper, and flail. “He won’t look scared, but he’ll appear to be confused,” says Dr. Richard Ferber, author of Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems (Dorling Kindersley).
    How are they different from nightmares?
    Nightmares occur during rapid eye movement (REM) or dream sleep. A child who has had a nightmare is likely to have a clear idea of what scared him, though before before he is about two, he probably won’t be able to articulate his fright. He may also be afraid to fall back asleep, and in the morning, he may remember that he had a bad dream.
    How long do night terrors last?
    An episode may last anywhere from two or three minutes to around thirty minutes. A child having a night terror cannot be calmed down. It can be very frightening to a parent because repeated attempts to soothe the child have no effect.
    How should I handle them?
    Of course, you’ll want to comfort your baby, and you should, but that’s not enough. Since the baby is stuck between two sleep stages, you can try to offer him a bottle so he can go into deeper sleep, or take him out of his bed to another room, which might rouse him. If neither measure has any effect it’s important to remember, say the experts, that the child isn’t actually awake. And though it’s upsetting to see your child thrashing about in distress, attempts to comfort may not help; in fact, in many cases, your baby won’t even know you’re there.
    What should I do when one occurs?
    It’s best to sit nearby and wait for the episode to pass. You can try taking your child into another room or outside where the temperature is very different. This may bring him into a lighter sleep state.

    Within 15 to 20 minutes your child should calm down, curl up, and fall asleep again. He won’t recall the incident in the morning, and it’s best not to remind him of it.
    How do I prevent them?
    There are steps you can take to head off night terrors. Children who go to bed agitated or overtired are more likely to suffer these sleep disturbances. Babies under a year old usually need between 13 and 14 hours of sleep a day, including two daytime naps, whilst older children may sleep nine or ten hours at night, with a one-hour nap. So that you know your child is getting enough sleep, lengthen his nap time, let him sleep a little later in the morning, or put him to bed earlier. And make sure that there’s plenty of time for calming bedtime rituals, such as bath-time, songs, stories, and lots of cuddles.

    Since night terrors tend to happen in the first part of the night, after your child has been asleep for two or three hours, you can try to prevent them by gently waking him up about 15 minutes before the typical episode would start. This should alter the sleep pattern and prevent the night terror from creeping into his slumber.


  • Night lights help maybe also get a mattress and sleep in her room and see if it improves like a sleepover and some calming music during the night might help too on really low :)


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