I can see why she’d want to attend the party. Could you let her stay but negotiate equivalent extra time for yourself the next week?

Think you should let her. It’s not about spending extra time with dad, it’s about a birthday party of a girl she likes. Your daughter is 15, when you forbid her, she could hold it against you some time.

You have a good point. They had all week to do something to include your daughter, they shouldn’t need to cut into your time. However, it is a birthday party, it’s not like it could have been reorganised. If it’s a one off or a rare thing, I would let dad have the extra time. As long as you didn’t have anything special planned for your time?

It’s a tough situation. I hope it worked out for you.

tough one, but if the party is really important to her, then maybe let her go and ask if she can make it up to you on a different occasion.

Tough one, I hope it all worked out.

there are some good comments here

Did she end up going to the party?

I think it’s great that she’s forming those bonds, and I let her.

what did you decide on?

I would let her go to the party – easier than having a problem. But maybe talk to her about spending an extra day shopping with you to make up for it because you love spending time with her too.

What did you decide to do?

its a birthday party and being that age they would want to go, its only one day so I hope you decide what is best for your child

I think it comes down to what she wants.
Separated parents need to stop thinking of it as my time and his time. It comes down to what is best for the child. I would be happy that she wants that relationship in the first place

I think she is getting to the age where she can make decisions like this.

Hope some of the advice below has been helpful.

What did you end up deciding?

yes time with her dad is good. kids need both

Its not fair but you cant stop her if she wants to spend more time eith her dad you need to be the bigger person here and I know its hard i have gone through this with my son and his dad it all most killed me but your childs happyness is the most important thing here i do understand how you feel

I’m sorry, but i disagree- your child should be able to go to her fathers birthday, you cant be as black and white as that, as someone who came from a “broken family” the more that you try to keep your kids to yourself, the more theyll rebel and try to fight against you- dont become the bad guy here, based on your experiences with te father- but at the same time set boundaries with him, ie will be home by 8pm sharp!