I hear you mama! Make sure the workload is shared with hubby, that helps 100%. If you have two or more kids, share the bedtime routine. Make cleaning easier for yourself by chucking everything in the dishwasher, getting a slow cooker/multicooker for quick hearty meals, robovac that vacuums and mops (you can control via app to vacuum/mop your house whilst your at work). This is what is saving us atm.

It’s tough and no one finds it easy unless they have a legion of helpers. I so struggle with this myself. I try to be prepared with food. Cook up big batches of food that we can eat for a few days. Chops vegetables on the weekend ready to be cooked. Get over a messy house. Hire help if you can afford it. Work from home sometimes if you can. Make sure your partner is sharing the load. Sometimes go out without the kids.

Is your partner helping out? That can make a huge difference.

Oh you poor woman! Do you have a partner to help out at all? Or family close by to help out? My first thought is to be organised, it always makes life easier, but being so flat out and exhausted it would be difficult for you to even put effort into organisation. I hope things get easier for you

Preparation and routine are key I meal prep on weekends make bulk meals and freeze individual serves so I don’t waste valuable time cooking every night . Routine helps set bath and bed times etc and I grocery shop online and have it delivered it saves hours and makes meal planning easier.

It’s full on being a mum, i wonder how we do it sometimes!

Its so hard to do two jobs well. Home and secular work. I find using my weekends to make loads of meals for freezing helps me keep a little more organized. My Saturdays are food and housework. Sunday is my day off. I really mean that. Its explained to the family that I need to recharge too.

I find if your try to not sweat the little things, physically you can cope fine but mentally you have to let go of a lot and you’ll find it a lot easier, sit on the couch, read to your kids, housework will wait. Do your grocery shop online and get it delivered, cook fresh & simply and make sure you go to bed early!

I try to set aside some time on the weekend to do a quick clean of the house and prep some ingredients/meals for during the week. I know it’s hard to find time to relax and I definitely look forward to our families holiday time each year! Burning yourself out is the worst thing you could do, if you feel you aren’t coping, ask for help. Whether it be going out for dinner instead of cooking one night a month, having someone come in and do a small amount of cleaning every so often, etc.

i would rest when possible and try to get help from family

it helps to have a good partner I’m lucky we both work and we both share running the house

you must be tired, it sounds like you need some help

I guess it depends on how old your kids are as well as how much help hubby gives you

how has it been? have you found a middle ground?

It is very hard especially if you have to run the house as well> I have been there and done it and The best thing is take a holiday every now and again just to relax otherwise you will burn out then you cannot help anyone.

For me, I believe if I am working full time hours at work then I do minimal work at home. With both of us working full time, we earn enough money to get some help at home so we can enjoy some family time. I don’t believe in all work and no play!

It’s tough. Try to outsource some things – even having someone else do the vacuuming and bathrooms can help a lot. And try to get at least a little time regularly where you can do something you want to do, uninterrupted. Even as simple as half an hour with a book, say.

I once asked a mum with a high powered job how she did it all and I recently called her back to apologise – because I never once asked her husband how he coped! I just assumed that she did everything and that is SUCH a 1950s way of thinking! Nowadays, the husbands have to be expected to do just as much at home as the mums because it’s simply not fair otherwise. Having said that, my two tips for coping with work and home is to discover the delay start button on your washing machine (I set it up at night so it starts and finishes before I wake up) and do as much prep during the night for the following day (I find that my slow cooker has been a lifesaver as I come home to already cooked meals with overtired and hungry children). It’s certainly not easy. Be kind to yourself.

I went back to work when my first was 11 weeks old. She is 10 now. I worked crazy hours (sometimes over 80 ours a week) and had no family nearby. My husband also worked big hours. We were lucky to have great daycares and that our daughter was always healthy. We never had time for hobbies or to go out much. We had a good routine, cooked in bulk and occasionally got a cleaner. My husband and I shared all the work.
I had our 2nd daughter a year ago and this time I have taken lots of leave. I realise how much I missed out on and I think I was close to burnout.

I have just returned to work full time working 9-5. I’m on day 10 – im so tired but hoping it will get better. I just try and keep positive thoughts that I am working to support my family and pay the bills to feed and cloth us.