Unless a medical professional signals cause for concern regarding your child’s diet, refrain from excessive worry. If concerns about picky eating persist, consult with your family physician and possibly ask for a referral to deitician/speech therapist/ OT/ feeding therapy. As long as your child’s aversion to specific foods is not hindering growth, health or development, allow dietary autonomy.
Understand the root of picky eating
A child’s reluctance to eat certain foods isn’t always because he or she is “just being difficult.” A top reason is having an anxious temperament. Individuals who run anxious tend to be anxious about trying new things, including new foods. Genetics may also play a role, as we all have different ways of perceiving taste. What might taste great to you — broccoli, for example — could taste bitter and inedible to your child.
Be patient
Remember that it takes a child 5 to 10 times of trying a food to determine whether he or she likes it. Don’t give up directly. Offer choice and respect authonomy.

Some people have colour choices. I know the lady she was in her 50’s. She came to my class as first aid. She was wearing purple dress, purple shoes , pen, notebook, handbag, water bottle and her hair colour everything was purple.
I couldn’t stop myself to ask her” Is purple your favourite colour?” She told me she can’t live without purple colour. She said if any day I won’t like purple then i am not normal.
Why did i tell you the story because your daughter might be in the same boat as that lady.
Plz consult with someone who knows better about it. Its normal but they have really strong beliefs in colours.

Keep adding the same stuff to the plate to get them used to it but don’t be upset if they don’t. Just consistent, eventually they will taste some.

We found an Occupational Therapist & a Speech Pathologist were able to offer support and strategies too.

At nine, unless there’s a clear medical reason (and I do include mental health reasons there), you should simply make the family meal and tell her she’s welcome to eat it or go without.

When my boys go through fussy phases I just say “you don’t have to eat if you don’t want to. Dinner is here if you change your mind”. Sometimes they choose not to eat , sometimes they wait 20-30 minutes and then eat. I never throw dinner out until everyone has gone to bed as if they ask for food at bed time I offer to heat up their dinner.

Yes I agree, in general do not make a big deal of it and certainly don’t fight or force

I’d try to not make a big deal out of it. I’d make a big deal about what you’re eating, let her overhear the comments on how good it was, can I have more, that’s amazing etc.

We received support from a dietician and it helped.

Most kids go through a fussy with food stage. Keep doing what you’re doing, she’s incapable of starving herself, she’ll eat eventually. Keep healthy snacks on hand for between meals if she’s not eating much at mealtimes

We saw a dietician for a while for our daughter – also a picky eater and they seemed to be able to make plenty of suggestions and options for us to try

Agree with the below comment, a speech therapist can also help in a similar manner. Hopefully this is just a phase she’ll grow out of shortly.

You could look into feeding therapy or OT. Occupational Therapists (OTs) are uniquely positioned to address picky eating due to their training in analyzing activities. OTs also understand how to facilitate lasting behavior change. Looking at your mealtime environment, an OT will help you identify which aspects facilitate a positive interaction.

I have a child who is like this. She is 5.5 years old but i have learned after reading a lot of different articles that it is important to not make a big deal of this. To eliminate extra stress on you, try not to over think this. Kids go through so much as they are developing, maybe it is just a stage. If you are really worried about it, i would see your GP to see if you can get a referral to see a dietitian or similar. Has she had any changes happen at school or at home that could have caused this? Good luck