I do hope you sorted this out with her.
I think i would have just said to her straight out that she might think its fine but if you ask anyone out there they would say it was weird and very wrong. If she is not happy being a grandparent then so be it but she had her shot at motherhood and she just need to stop being so childish. The kids will either call her Nan, Gran or by her first name.

Absolutely ridiculous ????you are their Mother simple as that. You need to set some strict boundaries that she needs to abide too. She seems to in my opinion have control over these children, preparing for a take-over. What medical background does she have to state you suffer from post natal depression. I am sorry buy maybe she needs a mental health evaluation.

I would guess that your mother doesn’t want to be called Nan because she feels that will make her feel old. However, she has no right to be called Mum. Maybe you could sort of compromise and get the children to call her Granny Mum – that should put the fox in amongst the pigeons, and it might just stop her and ease your frustration. Good luck with whatever you decide!

You are the mother so you should be called mum. Sounds like you need to pull your mum aside and let her know how much you are unhappy with her doing this. Good luck. I am so sorry but o hear you are going through this. How confusing for the children. I would love to hear how you go and what the outcome is.

Tell her that you are the child’s Mother and they will only ever have one. If she’s that hung up on the idea, suggest they call her by her first name. If she really wants to be called Mummy, tell her to adopt.

Love to know a follow up on this post?

That sounds as though your mum has serious issues. To me it sounds as though she can’t handle the fact that you have left the nest and started your own family so she wants to take control. You need to firmly put her in her place with that one. If she can’t respect your wishes, don’t see her until she can.

Put your foot down FIRMLY with your Mum. Tell her it’s Nanna/Grandma or nothing. Your kids, your rules and if she doesn’t like that, don’t come around. She should not be confusing your kids and should not expect them to call you by your first name. You are their Mum. She is not! Stand up for you and your kids. Good luck to you

OMG!!OMG!! OMG!! I just can’t believe a grandmother expects her grandchildren to call her mummy and not nan/nannie/gran/grandma. I think this is absolutely bizarre. Did you call your mother mummy or her first name? And to confuse a child on the autism spectrum so that he thinks his grandmother is his mother is appalling. I would be banning her from visiting Intel she becomes grandma or nan or anything other than mummy mum or mother. My granddaughter has just had a baby 9 months ago and I wasn’t sure what I thought the baby should call me but my granddaughter said grandma is fine because everyone but my kids call me grandma and that won’t confuse him at all, my daughter is nana.

This is beyond strange, I wonder why your Mother is being so unreasonable and weird. You really need to let her know that you are the gatekeeper between her and her grandchildren. If she wants any sort of relationship with any of you then she needs to abide and respect your choices for them. Don’t let her gaslight you about the PND etc. Her behaviour is very strange.

This is bizarre. Very strange. I personally wouldn’t let her visit if she continues to insist the kids call her mum. I noticed this is an old article so would be interested to find out an update and whether the grandmother stopped the behaviour

Very strange, I wouldn’t be going for that at all.

Wtf? This is so strange

It is just plain absurd that the grandmother wants the grandchildren to call her “mummy”! Your mother is not respecting your role as a mother. Both you and your husband should tell her to stop!. Ir is u heard of.

WTAF that is totally unacceptable on her behalf. You need to have that conversation with her and ask why she feels that is right and normal.

This doesn’t sound right at all, she’s definitely crossing a line. I would explain to her what the boundaries are and what the consequences will be when she continues to cross them

Wow that is super weird that your mum is being like that. You are definitely not overreacting. I would honestly just put my foot down and be straight up with her. You’re the mum she is the nan and she needs to deal with that.

Sounds like your mother is very controlling and putting you down. I say she is toxic and my friend I want you to find the courage to say to her that under no circumstances that your children are going to call her mummy. And ask her what she wants to be called I. E Nan, grandma. This I feel is detrimental to your children mental health. Maybe you can word it like you feel it’s disrespectful and that Nan or grandma is much more appropriate. Good luck!

I don’t think you’re overreacting. Perhaps a psychologist could help you deal with this situation in an efficient and logical way?

I totally don’t think this is ok. She is not their mother. She is their grandmother. I am thinking that maybe she is finding it challenging coming to terms with the fact she is actually a grandmother. No one i know who has kids, has their mother wanting to be called mummy. I’m sorry but it is weird, and it is affecting your family. I would suggest to sit down and talk to her about it, and if she doesn’t stop then you will have to exclude her from visiting.