I think it’s normal behaviour as your daughter will have been centre of attention, and now some of that attention is going towards the baby that your daughter can be feeling left out and still learning to regulate her feelings. Kids learn a lot through play, so if you can find a way to interact through play without focusing discussions on the baby, it may help you all.

When my second was born we bought our first son a gift from the baby. WE thought long and hard and got him something that he absolutely loved.

What helped me I bought my dd a doll and a pram, we would spend a lot of time playing mom and baby, we would also read some books about having a baby sister/brother and telling her she will be the big sister…

It’s a common response from older siblings but in my experience, once the baby arrives she will love it and be super excited. My friend just experienced this with her 3 older children – they were all dead against the new baby but the photos of them proudly holding baby in the hospital with a grin from ear to ear tells a different story

It’s just a phase. She is clearly not wanting change, but when the new baby comes and she can see how fun it can be, it will change. Just give it time.
My daughter was a bit unsure at first, I was expecting a lot of jealousy etc, but she loves her little brother so much. I just needed to give it time and stress less.

pretty common response but once baby arrives she will love them

I think she will adjust after time. being the only child she is probably afraid that she will no longer be the centre of attention. I have heard of people buying presents for their kids when the baby is born so they don’t feel left out. let her know that she will be loved just as much as the new baby. tell her that she has a new important place as the older sister to make sure the baby is looked after. I think that once the new baby is born she will fall in love with him or her and it will all be alright. good luck.

Give it time!!

There are some lovely books out there on just this subject. We used there’s house inside my mummy, and the kids loved reading it. Don’t stress, everything is different once bub has arrived and the older child can see them.

It’s probably just a phase, I’m sure she will be very excited once bub arrives

she will get used to it and end up loving being a sister

I had my son when my daughter was 2 and half. I involved her a lot since day dot found out I was pregnant. I let her touch my belly and let her choose things for her baby brother and since we had the name decided already, I would let her call him by name as if he’s already here. Most of the time she didn’t know what was happening exactly. After I gave birth, my husband brought her to the hospital the next day, I let her hold him and I can just see the look in her face that she was so excited because to her, it’s like her doll babies came to life lol. It was hard for her in the first two weeks as she gets over excited and I get worries she might hurt him. Even now, they’re 4 and half and 2, they still fight sometimes and she doesn’t want to have anything to do with him at time. But if any other child try to hurt my son. Her big sister instinct kicks in and she’s like “don’t hurt my Jonah!”, he’s my brother”. I call it sibling love haha. She even tells me that she want’s another baby and this time she wants a girl baby

it will be different when the baby comes mine was like that and then the baby was born and i hate to bribe her to give her back lol

Does she have a baby doll? Maybe use the doll to show her how much fun a baby can be and she can be mummy to the doll while your mummy to the baby

once the baby comes along, you may find she will have changed her mind and will love having cuddles with her new brother/sister. Make sure she is the fist one to meet them once they are born and just her too. This gives her some time with both you and the baby without having other people fussing over the new baby straight away. Some people also buy a little gift from the baby for their sibling

Don’t worry about it she probably doesn’t even understand what you are asking, its not like you can reverse time and change things so just see what happens once bubs arrives and try not to pressure her that she has to be wanting the baby, you might just be surprised by her reaction once it happens

She is three, does she really understand I dont think so. Wait until bub comes home things will be different. For now I would suggest not talking about it as much concepts dont gel well with little ones and its probably too overwhelming when your asking her about her new sister she probably would rather be playing etc

I think she will be change become excited when you bring the baby at home.

I had this problem with my first born a Daughter so we bought her a male doll and named it Jay after what the baby would be named so as I did things getting ready like washing bibs ect she would wash hers,,,,but she loved him in the hospital but when he came home and Daddy was nursing him she said she hated him that was her Daddy take him back don’t want him any more. So hubby said ok went into the laundry and told her he would take him back to the hospital. Within seconds she was screaming bring back my Bubby bring back my Jay Jay I love him he’s my bubba and he can share my Daddy. she mother him and we shared things like changing time were she would pass me the nappy and one for her own baby Jay and we would change and powder them and dress them together. Hubby made her a small clothes line so she could hang her baby Jay’s washing on she even has a washing trolly. Now as many years have past they are close and always there for each other and her baby Jay is packed away and she is almost 30

Many children act this way. Going from being the centre of attention to having to share that attention can be really scary when your little. Involving her in everything once the new baby arrives will help to make her feel included & showing her you can spend time with her whilst looking after the new baby.