That’s a completely normal feeling. Try meditation to feel better in your mind, the body will follow

We sometimes forget in our busy lives to give each other attention. Go out for a coffee or a dinner, or sit together on the balcony or outside with a wine after the kids have gone to bed and chat and listen, show time, interest and love and the rest will come.

have a huge pamper sesh and make yourself feel like a million dollars. i know that when you are with someone for a long time, you get stuck in a rut and become like housemates vs lovers so try to do something unusual and spontaneous. Blind fold hubby when he gets home and then let your imagination take over. lol. my hubby and i just tried to spice things up by buying strawberries and cream, chocolate etc for a fun night and then we ended up just eating all this stuff, normally lol. We laugh about that and we still had a good time. Go on a date to the cinema and dinner or go for a road trip.

oh gosh….i hear you.
I look at myself in the mirror and think ” How could anyone think thats sexy?”
I do think that we are super hard on ourselves though and of course we are bombarded daily with pictures of woman that are photoshopped and look a million dollars. Heck even people that are not celebs are using filters for the photos they post of themselves on facebook so of course when we compare ourselves with them we are going to feel second rate.
I dont really have any advice… I hear you loud and clear though.

Had my second child 8 momths ago and i hate the way my body looks
I lost weight and i love that
But i have no interest in sex
My poor bf has been so supportive the whole way
Perhaps you need a week away from each other or just a few days
Then a sexy night or two together !

thanks for asking this question. I often feel like this to. Interesting to read the responses.

My partner and i both just recently took a week off. We didn’t go anywhere but were just able to spend extra time with each other, stay up later, watch movies actually have time for long conversation. It really helped and i feel so much happier for it

So many uplifting comments – I’m following this one.
Need some enlightenment too!

Will be following all the answers, because I feel the same way.

Sounds like post pregnancy blues! I get if you had included a pic of yourself, we’ld all be saying “What is she complaining about, I can’t see it!” Give yourself a break

Go out for a facial or a spa day! endings yourself and then chuck something sexy on and you’ll notice you feel so much better trust me

You need a makeover & need some new fresh lingerie & new clothes to give yourself the lift you need,a whole new fresh look sounds best.Buy a new bag & shoes,get your hair done,& your nails,put some happy music on & enjoy yourself!

I don’t have any tips. But just wanted to say that I am right there with you feeling the same! For me, I am still unhappy with myself following the birth of our second child.

I settle for being loved. Sexy may return alter.

Some excellent advice on here! Thanks for asking this q – I think most of us go through this. Also talk to the hubby – they need to contribute to making us feel special

Also, in addition to my comments below, how about a weekend away to rekindle romance or a special night in with dinner and soft music? Those romantic gestures that make both parties feel good.

Thanks for all the good replys ,yes I must feel like a woman & starts with my own thoughts ,positive talk should help .

maybe some positive thinking and a bit of practice at it all in the bedroom? a bit of a chat with your partner and ask him to help you feel good about your body with touch and talk? Im the same and could never do any of the above but do as i say not as i do lol
Good Luck

I agree with coastalkaryn’s comments – positive self talk and you are what you think you are – focus on what you like and what makes you feel good – it is not a size or shape or clothes. Sexy comes from within and its about be happy and satisfied by doing the things that make you happy. Energy comes from being active and involved in activities and pursuits that complete you. You will feel better about focusing on ‘you’ and your energy will be ‘sexy’.

Talk to your partner and get a sitter in if you have kids, you need to feel spolit and been wine and dined is a good start to get that spark back. Also Talk to your doctor if you are on any meds to see if that could be causing any isssues.( i know mine have taken away my desire for that)