Trigger warning- mention of loss

I have a 4 month old and am pregnant again

For context I had several losses before this bub with low amh which more than halved whilst pregnant. My amh was retested and at 2.8. My specialist said I didn’t have time to wait a few years and to start trying straight away as I also have other medical issues

There will be a 12/13 month age gap and just wanting get an insight or any tips for 2 under 2 and also dealing with being pregnant with a baby

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  • Plan for the first six weeks to be difficult – and then it will get much easier once you have routines in place.

  • this is a really blessings. So Congratulations to you. i would say it is a best age gap to raise them together. you will save lots of $$$. It should be okay. first years will be hard. but overall happy decision

  • I had two under two and while the first couple of years were tough at times you do get through it. I think you just need to go with the flow as much as possible and go easy on yourself. It’s ok if the house isn’t always clean etc. Also down the track it’s great having two close together. My two have a great bond and they’re always there for each other.

  • First of all, congrats! Such a blessing to get pregnant straight away – you can do this. You’re already doing it with the one so it will be the same but just times two. Bub number one will be a bit older when two is born so at least you would have had experience and have practiced everything already.
    We had two under two as well and at times it was challenging but we got through it.

  • I’m sure you’ll find it’s easier than what you’re expecting. Once bubs here and you’re actually doing it

  • It’s going to be challenging, but you can rise to it. Ask for help or take it when offered. Do whatever it takes to maintain your sanity and sleep. Once you get past the first stages, they’ll probably be best friends :)

  • My sister in law had two children and they are 13 months apart. She loved having children so close in age. Congratulations! I hope all goes well for you and your family.

  • Congratulations this is wonderful news. Make sure you have a support network around you and research local playgroups etc that you can take your older one too enjoy some activities with other kids while you look after your second child. Lots of community’s have playgroups as well as Libraries do things that are free for the kids and a great way to keep them engaged, especially when you have two and are feeling overwhelmed or tired.

  • Congratulations. It’s amazing what we can manage when put to the test. Make sure you ask for help if you need it and don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

  • Congratulations hun. Don’t be afraid to lean on those close to you for support.

  • You’ll be surprised at what you’re able to cope with. It’ll be chaos for a bit, but you’ll all survive. Best wishes

  • Congratulations it’s short term hard but so amazing too. Prepare yourself get help have meals prepped and be kind to yourself that goes while pregnant and when bub is there. Say yes to help and do what works for you not what you think you should do. You got this Mumma.

  • Congratulations! Expect the first six to eight weeks after birth to be challenging, but after that you’ll find it gets easier as you develop systems and routines.

  • This sounds hard. But you know my favourite affirmation for feeling peace in a tough situation “This is easy.” Sometimes it really helps. Just taking a few deep breaths and saying that to myself. I hope that you have very minimal or no morning sickness. My only advice (as a mum of a 5yr old and 15 weeks pregnant) is to ensure you are getting lots of nutrients from food, just basic simple and easy nutrition in my opinion the most nutrient dense food you can eat is unprocessed red meat, steaks in particular are so easy and fast to cook literally no prep just chuck them in the pan, cook for a few mins, flip, cook, sprinkle on some high quality salt like himalayan pink rock salt or celtic salt and done. This will ensure you are getting lots of protein, your iron levels will remain great, good for zinc, and it’s the main source of vitamin B12, source of B6 which is suppose to be good to help pregnancy nausea, Potassium, Magnesium and more but it’s also low in Vitamin A which is good for pregnancy because high Vitamin A in pregnancy is known to cause birth defects (which is why any good multivitamin for pregnancy will not contain it). It’s a superfood. I ate barely any for years and the first few months of this pregnancy where so hard, I was having so many health issues I had to quit my job due to weakness, after doing lots of research Inspired by some accounts I follow on Twitter for natural health I decided to start eating more red meat and It’s one of the best choices I’ve ever made.

  • Congratulations! It sounds like a whirlwind, but you’re incredibly strong. Focus on support systems — practical help with the baby makes all the difference. I had twins, and I felt a strong network of people helped, as well as a good routine! :)

  • Congratulations. I have twins. It’s not easy to have two young ones. And I missed out on a lot of things. Couldn’t do what other mums do with only one baby. Like going out for coffee etc. But you do what you gotta do. And I’m sure you‘ll work it out.

  • Congratulations to you.
    Im sure it feels all a little overwhelming and although I have never been in your position I know that their are many woman out there who have including my mother and a couple of good friends of mine.
    I dont have any advice other then to have faith in yourself.

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