It really depends how much you trust the Driver. No matter what or who is driving getting into a car is one of the most dangerous things we do each day. We jump in and really dont give too much thought to how dangerous it is.

Not at all unreasonable. P-platers still have to learn responsible driving and it’s so easy to get distracted in the car with a couple of friends

I can totally feel wth you.

Always thought & know I’m one of the rare few parents who think like so, very unlikeable by the children, especially the teenagers. It causes transport inconvenience for them when they’re forced to take public transport when I’m unable to taxi them myself, as it takes more time on the road to reach their destinations. Unhappy not to be able to travel in the same car as their friends.

Distractions is my main concern when few teenagers & young adults are packed into a car.

I always ask them rethorically, why do you think insurance costs more for under 25 yo? In fact , I feel it shd be raised to 30 yo.

I always say, better to be late than sorry for the rest of their lives should anything bad happen. On everyone involved, drivers & passengers, & their families, as I’ve witnessed in few of my contacts’ lives post car accidents. Relationships & friendships are ruined or strained forever.

I think you are right.

I have a 16 year old on his L’s and I have told him he is not allowed to have his mates in the car when he is first on his p’s, it is such a worry though, just hope he does the right thing and listens to mum.

Oh No way I would let my child in a car with a P plater sorry

This depends I wouldn’t want my child in a random P platers car and not at night but if it was a trusted person for a specific trip that might be different.

It would depend on your relationship with the p plater.my son has some friends he is allowed and others he is not.I make my judgement on observations and where the ride is to.Afterall we were all p platers at some point.suggest they drive you to local shop first .
Good luck

i agree with you. I would not let my Son do it either.

If you don’t feel that it’s right, then stick to your guns.
To help her understand, sit her down and tell her how you feel

Nope not at all. stick to your guns mumma. 14 is still too young to be in a P platers car. Too much can go wrong.

You are not being unreasonable. P platers have such minimal experience and are so easily distracted.

It all depends on the driver and if they are responsible behind the wheel. It’s scary to think of but if you could discreetly find anyone else who’s seen him driving it might help to ease your mind.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable – I think back to when I was starting to drive and would only have 1 other (adult) in the car with me. It can be very distracting when first starting to drive.

I will not allow my kids to do that.It is quite hard to deal with teenagers.

The law here says a P plater under 25 years of age can only have one other passenger between 16 and 25., so the intent to minimize the number of young passengers carried by a novice driver is there in the law. While your daughter is only 14 I would not let her get used to having a ride. In fact it would be rather strange because the unrelated P-plate driver would have to have her as the only passenger. I think there are provisions for older siblings carrying younger siblings, but that is it. Show your daughter the law perhaps.

Ooh, I’m not sure what state this is in reference too. Here in Vic, P platers are 18 to 21, so I do know of P platers driving younger family members around.

its not unreasonable as the P plater wouldnt have enough experience

I think it is a little unreasonable provided the other kids are only 17 and perhaps there are other kids going too? You can’t really have one rule for your son and another for your daughter. They are only two years apart. I think the only way out of this is to have the ultimatum of you need to meet the friends first, be satisfied that they are safe drivers and they have safe vehicles – if that is all good then I think it’s fine. Either that, or you can meet her halfway and say that she is allowed to when she is 15.

It’s fair! Young people (especially red P platers – I’m in Vic) have the highest crash rates of any drivers, scarily high actually. I had a nasty crash too at that age. It sounds like you are protecting your young teen!