This is me. I don’t hardly go out only to the Dr or specialists appointments or grocery shopping thats basically it. I do not like and don’t feel comfortable going to groups I don’t have any friends and don’t have any parents as they have both passed away and my sister has nothing to do with me at all. So some days are like very lonely but I feel more safe staying home than going out.

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  • I am so sorry to hear this. Making new friends is hard. I am not always good at making new friends either but when my daughter was born I took the plunge and posted on my local community page to see if any other new mums would be keen to meet up for a walk with our babies and I now have 2 great friends from it. My daughter has since started school so I have pushed myself to introduce myself to some of the kids parents that my daughter talks too. It is so hard but it’s so worth it. Give it a go, you will surprise yourself.

  • Going out and making new friends can be hard. Please don’t give up on trying. Just do it at your pace and in your way. Are there groups that relate to your child that you could go to (playgroups etc)? You may find mums with common feelings that you will click with. You’re not alone in how you feel! i’d also have a chat to your GP as a start. There’s plenty of help available out there.

  • I can understand the situation, with family distant or passed, disliking groups and finding time and energy (or even wanting) friends. I think it is more common than we imagine. Although I’m not sure what you mean by ‘more safe staying home.’ Perhaps this is something to talk about with GP or specialist if it’s stopping you do things you might otherwise benefit from, or feeling lonely. Medications can have side effects that might include this sort of stuff. And there might be something simple that could help (even probiotics are meant to change our guts and influence feelings). I also recommend trying a group of some sort one day when you are already out. Walking groups an option, many on Saturday mornings at parkrun across Australia,

  • As uncomfortable as you are try to push past it and make yourself attend at least one group a week. You don’t mention if you have kids but they are the best way to meet people. We have lifelong friends now that we met 30 years ago through playgroup. Taking them to playgroup or the park, local activities that are on, Library reading days. If they are at school you could volunteer at the canteen or for reading with kids etc. Do something different like learn to crochet groups etc. Even little towns often have. You don’t have to be a parent to volunteer at schools and there are many places you can volunteer locally.
    Please don’t just sit back and say “This is me” because it’s not all there is. You can grow.

  • I would suggest you attend a Salvation Army Church / Group. If you have a young child /ren they probably have a play group that you could attend.
    You could inquire about their social / helpful groups or maybe just start with a Sunday Church session. They have very supportive ears and are always there to lend a hand.
    Wishing you all the very best.

  • We all have good and not so good days and there are plenty of people who don’t like groups and prefer to be on their own. All good when you feel happy with it, but when you’re not happy with it you could seek help. Sometimes this cab be caused by a diagnosis like ASD

  • So normal to feel this way. I get like this too even with my wife and two kids at home. I am thankful to still have my mother but she lives in another town so I get very lonely sometimes and look to turn to her but it has been hard not having her close by. Just know that you are an amazing mumma and, from what I’m told, these years will fly by!!!

  • Sounds like a few things going on here. We all have ups and downs, but inability to (rather than disliking of) leave the house is not healthy. Do you have a psychologist?
    Have you tried Peanut? Or another way to find similar minded people?
    If your kids are young, do you ensure they go out?

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