Try and see a doctor and ask for his help

I’d show him the question you posed here…maybe he doesn’t know that you’re worried about him?

Maybe his moods are caused by being so tired, try to get him to doctor and get help to regulate sleep
Patterns and to see if any other hidden problems that he needs help with mentally, good luck

Is it possible he is worried about money? Are you financially ok? Is it possible for him to change jobs, take a holiday or even downsize your home? Can you get a part time job? He his health in general ok (physically) You need to sit down with him when he isn’t rushed or tired (weekend maybe) with no kids (if you have any) and just talk about life and how things are going for you both. I would just start off with you seem very tired of late is there anything that is stressing you or is work getting you down etc.

Call beyond blue and ask some advice on how to brooch the subject. He may be in denial about it, and might be moody. Talk to a community counselor for yourself and how to stay supportive. The main thing is to not push or to become over as an accuser or to be too withdrawn x

First off…DO NOT self diagnose. Find a GP who has worked with mental illness and address your concerns with them. They may be able to give you some strategies on how to deal with hubby and how to get him to seek help.

First of all, don’t self diagnose- he has to admit he has a problem.
2nd- don’t just point out the bad
3rd- go talk to your family gp
4th get all information from like beyond blue and print off for hubby to read.
5th irregular sleep can cause depression to spiral worse
6th with depression the person with it has to admit it first before they can get help.
7th don’t go to his mates about it you know what most men are like “she’ll be right mate!”
8th if he does admit he has a problem then go to the gp together
9th support your husband as much as you can.
10th find out if its heridtry.
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Just gently express your concerns to him at a convenient time? It may take a bit of him going and processing but hopefully your heartfelt concern will register with him. We have been through this journey, all the best for you and your family! …yes, the black dog picture book is a beautiful touching sad book about the reality of how depression affects…felt very real to hubby and I, and enlightened my sis on it all. …it can be a hard time and may need ongoing management but there is hope for all of you!

There are 2 really good websites mantherapy.org.au and softenthefckup.com.au . These are specifically aimed at men’s mental health. Check these out for some more info. Please seek professional help if you feel it’s warranted, it’s dangerous to self-diagnose

I’m not sure what you mean by “erratic sleep” as it could be defined in many different ways, but I know a lot of people who have been diagnosed with sleep apnea and have been 100% better since. If he has even mild sleep apnea paired with long work hours it could certainly be contributing to his moods etc. Maybe something to check out?

I ended up leaving my ex for this & other reasons. Just be honest & go see your family doctor. Good luck & look after yourself!!

WoW! Can you ring a mental health line in your area and ask this same question. I worked as a PA for Mental Health liaising with a Chief Psychiatrist and many Psychologists… there should be a state health line you can ring (if you’re in Australia) and speak with them about how to broach this (sometimes touchy) subject. But not eating would definitely not be helping his mood swings. Good luck x

You know your husband better then any of us do of course so im usre you know if he would be receptive to you discussing these sorts of things with him.
I tried many times to discuss the issue of excess drinking with my husband but because is an alcoholic he wasnt interested in listening at all. I spoke to his Doctor about it who wasnt very helpful at all and im pretty sure he thought i was just trying to cause trouble…the Doctor actually told me “its not illegal to be an alcoholic”…anyway…sorry …Ive strayed more to myself then your question…
Try talking to him and see how you go but becarful that you dont sound like you are accusing him of anything and make it clear you are just concerned about him.

My partner is exactly the same as this. And it’s because he is exchsuated! He is much happier etc on the weekends after a decent nights sleep.

Oh, also, having people “check up” on him for you, or speaking to his fiends and colleagues about this without consulting him first, is also not a good idea. It has the same effect as an intervention, in making a person feel isolated, spied on, judged and mistrusted because you went behind their back. Really the key thing is to speak to your husband first, then speak to a professional (hopefully together, or him alone if that’s what he wants). Good luck!

Go to his mother, thats what I did and it worked he is now been on antidepressants for over 12 months

There is a fantastic blog , 5 little reasons , her husband has bi polar , and it might have some advice on there for you

Interventions (that is group ones) never, ever, ever work, and in fact make the target feel worse. So I would suggest speaking to your husband in private, first and foremost, and broach your concerns with him, and then if that doesn’t go over too well you can speak to your GP alone if you have to. DO NOT SELF-DIAGNOSE. Only the people who have actual medical training should diagnose a patient. And although it does seem hard, you sometimes just have to have hard conversations. So it would be best to speak to your husband first, and then seek professional help. Remain non-judgemental, and let your husband speak about un-related issues if he wants to. Listen for underlying concerns, and let him know that there are people there to support him.

CAn you talk to your GP? They will help give advice or may be even talk to them. If you talk to him he may feel judged

Talk to his best mate/mates. Tell them your concerns and they maybe able to talk to him. He may feel defensive if approached by a loved one but can speak openly to friends.