He needs to go to counselling with you.

Your life is just as important as his and you need to be happy. There is nothing wrong with you moving home. He can always visit on his time off. I know a few family’s that have partners working FIFO and they live interstate so the partner flies home on their shifts off. But if your husband doesn’t want that then leave. You and your daughter will be better off. You need happiness.

I would strongly recommend getting counselling as a couple. Let him know that you do want the marriage to work, but it does take effort and you both need to be able to communicate and hear each others needs, desires and feelings. If he is not prepared to meet you halfway on that – then leave. It doesn’t sound like it is a happy household for you or your daughter. You can help facilitate a good relationship between them, without being with him.

Generally I’d say stay and work on things as much as possible.. coming from experience leaving a marriage. But to be honest I only had to read the first few sentences and I say LEAVE. If you cut bring up minimal ssues, discuss how you feel, etc, along with no intimacy. I’m sorry but life’s too short and you have a child who’s learning love to give and receive from what you show and demonstrate…. id be out the door making a home for myself and child

I am sorry what are going througj now and its totally understandabke the way you feel. If I would be at your place I would try to find out the reasons behind all these feelings, fights and lack of intimacy. Is it because both if you want the other person to take the initiative? Or is it because the change in location, parenthood and added responsibility of parenthood? When both of you sit down just try to talk about the beautiful time you both had, the memories feelings etc for each other before all this change. Its not just your responsibility but in order for him to participate positively both of you should focus on future. Think about the things you enjoyed before etc. Never make any decision when you are angry or in an emotional state. See the pros and cons of staying in the relationship or moving out of the relationship I hope it will help you.

I feel that you are lonely and wanting a more intimate relationship than you have. If I were you, I would be trying to make some friends in your new environment, finding some nice restaurants to go to when your husband is at home and giving it a real good go to be happy. Try to think what attracted you to your husband in the beginning and see if you can rekindle those thoughts. If you genuinely try your hardest to make things work between the two of you for the sake of your daughter then if things don’t work out to your and his complete satisfaction, then if you leave you will not be doubting your actions in the future. I do hope all works out well for you. Loneliness can cause so much unhappiness, and it won’t go away because you have moved on. So please give it a go for all your sakes.

I’d give it more time, give the area more time too see how you feel in a years time, mix things up try get him to make a effort, plan things for you to do together when your daughter is in childcare or getting babysat. Find new interests, get chatting to other mums stop thinking about where you lived before show him your giving it a red hot crack then in 1 year you can say you gave it your best you’ll not be wonder if you did the right thing you’ll know yourself no doubt the right thing to do

I’m truly sorry to hear that you’re going through such a challenging and complex situation. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot, both personally and in your relationship. It’s completely valid to feel the way you do, and your emotions matter. Making decisions about relationships and major life changes is never easy. It might be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a counselor who can provide guidance and a listening ear. Remember to prioritize your well-being and consider what path will lead to the most positive and healthy environment for both you and your daughter. I wish you happiness