Your child and maternal health nurse may be able to assist you with ways to help you with this. Also let your child know, if they can’t do poos in the potty they won’t be a big girl and won’t be able to go to big girl kinder. If you are able, take her to the kinder to have a look at all the big kids having fun, this might inspire her to try harder to poo in the potty.

Persistence is key. I trained my two kids by putting them on the toilet periodically throughout the day and making them sit there for a while to try and do something. Quite regularly they did manage to do a pee or poo and if they did I used to make a huge fuss about it. I found when my daughter was being stubborn I bought her undies with her favourite character on them and then told her that she wouldn’t want to pee on Elsa, that would make her sad. It sounds simple, but it actually worked! Keep persisting and don’t give up, even if it means having to wake her up and make her go to the loo.

Awwww! I miss this stage so much! My kids are all big kids now! Trust me, enjoy it
You are doing amazing! It’s not an easy task and every kid is SO different.
Try different things and eventually one thing will click into place and work for you.
Ie. We would put teddy on the potty and have teddy do a ‘poo’ and then we would all cheer and make a big deal about it. Our daughter was so excited about it she couldn’t wait to poo in the potty. She would come out and get us to show us when she had done one and we would have a big song and dance about it.
You mentioned your daughter wets herself when she has her underpants on because she forgets it’s not a nappy. Perhaps at home she could just wear a dress without underwear so that she remembers to go to the toilet. I also found taking them to the toilet every now and again (even when they didn’t want to) helped keep them on track.
Reward charts are great aids aswell!
Good luck with it. You are doing great and you will get there!

Books are also good resources and can reinforce toileting.

Need a lot of patience and remain positive for the little one, it is a major step for them, to know and remember, when they are about to go, to go to the toilet.

Not one of my kids would toilet train before they were four. When they were four, they pretty much did it overnight. So maybe you just need to sit back and let her choose the time.

Keep doing what you’re doing. Try not to get angry or frustrated with her. Patience and time usually cure all kids issues

She will get there, be patient. Some kids take longer than others and many have issues doing poos. Some will only do it in nappies and even hide from you when doing it. It’s pretty normal.

To me this sounds very common. I have a couple of mum friends who are going through this at the moment and have been for a year. Their daughters are just starting to shift this now. Try using a reward chart and if the school
Has an open day, take her to the school and the classroom, show her the bathrooms and maybe ask the teacher to help you have a conversation with her at the open night and how important it is to try and be ready for school etc. then get her involved in buying a few things for school as some further excitement and keep talking to her about toilet training.

This doesn’t sound too unusual. All children are different. Definitely speak with your GP or maternal child health nurse for support but if just keep reminding, positive reinforcement and making a big deal out of accidents or how she is pooing. It’ll probably just click one day and you’ll never look back!

It’s really common for kids to have accidents and regressions, though. And how their parents handle them can make the difference in how long they continue.
However accidents can have a medical cause like constipation, bladder infection, diabetis, insufficient water intake.
When you have concerns it may be helpful to chat with a GP

I’d maybe reach out to your Maternal Health Nurse or your GP for help and advice on this one.

Maybe seek some professional advice from a GP. Maybe they can refer to a service provider for resources and supports.