My grandson, aged 2 1/2, did his first wee on the toilet yesterday. My daughter in law used lots of bribery, he still wet his pants 3 times before using the toilet mind you

Hope with age she’s got over her poo problem .

Number 2s ,well we just kept trying a littlecwhile after feeding our kids .Maybe read a story so she relaxes ..

We found a reward system worked really well.

try useing chocolates for when she poos in the potty but only give her choclate when she does poo in potty

We are having the same problems with my 3yr son. Pees on toilet but refuses to poo. We are currently using a poo chart and he gets stars for the chart and a sticker for himself. It’s very slowly moving forwards. But it’s moving and that’s what matters. I think I might try the pirate hat idea that has been suggested

That American nanny show has great tips!

I would not take the advice of putting her down as others have said as that can just cause her to become more nervous about it

Whenever she does a poo still put her on the toilet and make her stay there for a while. No shortcuts allowed.

She’ll soon learn that the other way around is worse to feel.

My son was the same when we started toilet training last year just before he turned 3 so daycare suggested a rewards chart. That worked for a while but the same behaviour returned so I made a cardboard pirates hat and we put a sticker of his choice on it each time he did a poo in the potty, now he goes by himself and is even trying to wipe his own bum. Hang in there it will all fall into place.

LIke a few people have said reward chats. I used to sing silly songs about having a poo party in the toilet and that would take his mind off things. I found that he had a fear of doing number twos as it feels like they are losing a piece of them self – if that makes sense. Our son would wait all day until he had a nappy on at a night. Overtime he did finally do it – some just takes longer than others… good luck!

When we toilet trained our daughter she didn’t like doing poos on the toilet, we distracted her by making up “once upon a time stories” she still needs a story to do a poo most days but it takes her mind off any fears of pooing.

I would seek advice from a MCHN or the free MCHN phone system, just to ease your worry. Good luck

You can more about toilet training tips at http://www.raisingchildern.net.au.

Reward charts etc are great and often do the trick. We also did the ‘special knickers’. Get a really cute pair of knickers – that maybe she could choose herself – BUT, she can’t wear them till she does her poos in the toilet.

They also have fun things like reward cards and stickers during the process… check out this site http://www.choice.com.au/reviews-and-tests/babies-and-kids/kids-health/kids-health/how-to-toilet-train-your-toddler.aspx

don’t get angry when she doesn’t just try your best to have a sticker chart or something each time she does poo’s in the toilet.

Ironically, last week i just happened to watch kids embarassing bodies on television and they had this exact issue.

They sent the child to a specialist to get to the bottom of the issue, to see if it was psychological or something else. They also used a story about Mr Poop (replace Mr with the child’s name) and the story was about how it made your child happy that mr poop went to the toilet, and how it made the child sad when mr poop couldnt escape.

You may want to internet search for this episode it was well handled in a sensitive manner where the child responded to the change of thoughts on this This episode may help with the concepts also.

good luck

Rewarding your child with something they really like to do like going on a picnic to playgrounds or their favourite indoor play centres are inexpensive & you can let them decide their reward.