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My daughter is 2.5yo. We had decided it was time to start toilet training, and there were the signs you look for. A week in and we have had no success, she refuses to sit on the toilet, she just stands there and wets herself and happily takes her undies off and gets a new pair, doesn’t care about the mess. She hasn’t once had a successful trip to the toilet. Could it be too early? Should we just give up and wait a bit longer or is there something I am missing?


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  • Only a week in! Praise her for getting new undies, glad she doesn’t care about the mess, either should you, it’s part of the learning process. Maybe a cute potty will work better for her, little stack of books next to it so she can learn to relax enough to do a wee.


  • I had no luck with my daughter till I bought a princess potty that plays music when she pushes a handle


  • Maybe try in a month or so. My son was quite difficult to toilet train so I set up a pirate theme. I used chocolate coins when he would sit on the toilet for the time I wanted. If he did a wee he would get some treasure, which was cars, bubbles , balls. It kept him motivated to try and go. He still now remembers his treasure from all his hard work. Good luck it is a tough one


  • My daughter started showing signs at a little after 2yrs, but we decided not to tt as her little brother was due when she was 2 1/4. She had herself trained by the time she was 2.5 yrs, with very little input from us, a little encouragement and that’s it. We have never had an accident from her, neither during the day or at night.
    My son is now 2yr9mths and shows no signs of being ready. I occasionally ask him if he wants to sit on the potty/ toilet but he doesn’t and so I don’t push him. I guess when he is more ready and willing, we can make a start.
    There is no rush at all. Remember, it’s highly unlikely your child will have to start primary school in nappies and near impossible that they will start high school in nappies! 😉


  • I don’t think your really missing anything nor do I think it’s ever too early to start toilet training. I would suggest that maybe trying to get her to even stay in her wet undies and if it’s in the toilet close the door and make her stay there for 1 min per year of age. I used to tell my kids that it’s yucky and no one would play with them if they kept having accidents. Everyone is different, all 3 of mine were trained well before 2, but if you start don’t stop and try again later keep at it as consistency will eventually pay off even if you make her run to the toilet with you when you need to go and make a big deal when you ‘made it on time’. Sticker charts are also great with these kinds of things!


  • I totally agree with MEEDEE (great minds think alike!)
    You need to be consistent, a week isn’t very long at all so keep going, she’ll get there 🙂
    I personally prefer to toilet train straight onto a toilet rather than use a potty. These days they have a wonderful range of seats that fit onto a normal toilet and also steps for children to use.
    I always used stickers – never understimate the power of positive praise and shiny stickers!!
    Summer is usually the best time to start so you’re instincts are right – hang in there and make it fun 🙂


  • If you are really keen on her toilet training, expose her to kids her age that use the toilet and also have her involved in cleaning up after accidents 🙂


  • Use a potty , how would you like to go mountain climbing to use the loo! I wolkd have started her even younger , praise & rewards go a long way in teaching children , or Adults.


  • I used to let my son just run around naked outside and wee poo on garden , then had a potty in loungeroom and i would pretend to use it and praise myself afterwards, he was trained by 2 1/2 , think i was lucky with a boy who was night trained too ! Good luck !


  • Also, I recommend a plain potty and putting stickers on it as a reward every time your child uses it. It worked well for my twins. Some people give sweets, but I personally feel reinforcement with junk food teaches bad dietary habits from an early age, and they may come to expect sugary foods as a reward for good behaviour in the future.


  • It can take months to properly toilet train, even at that age. And children often regress in that time. Don’t be discouraged, just stick with it. The only way for them to learn is to continue to be given the opportunity


  • Sounds like she’s being stubborn about it. I’d persist and just not let it bother you. She’ll get tired of the game. (Or perhaps offer her a potty instead of the toilet. She might not like being up so high. Mine didn’t like it.)


  • Mine was just over 2.5. We tried earlier but she wasn’t interested. So wait abut and then took her to target and she got to pick her own knickers and we then brought a potty prize, something she choose at the toy shop that when she’d been to the toilet for a week without an accident she got the prize. It worked great, except for no’2s, so we introduced a potty pop. A lolly pop that she got when she did a no’2 in the potty. All work great as they we’re prizes etc. that she picked and knew that she had to do certain things before she got them.


  • with the use of one use only nappies they don’t feel the wee so takes a bit longer for them to ‘get it’ most kids my childrens age were well and truly trained by 2 but i have noticed with this gen of littlies they struggle so can be even as old as 3 which can be embarassing for some and some are happy as larry, just be the best you can be a persist, no scolding though, enjoy


  • i bought a potty, toddler toilet seat, trainer undies, undies, swim nappies (for short car trips) when my son was 18m. I was told 23m was a magic time where it can start to click for kids. three days ago during nappy free time my son started running to the potty. Yesterday he did a poo and today have had no accidents inside (one pee in shower and one on the grass).
    From the sounds of it, it isnt a good time for her and i would pause and try again down the track.
    from 18m i have been focusing on following instructions and rewarding with hugs and hi 5s when he follows instructions. We reward each successful trip to the potty with a sticker, 5c for money jar, drawing on hand, small lolly. its never the same thing.


  • what you are missing is the cold and the discomfort, then it is less pleasant and they want to go to the bathroom more…


  • Summer is a great time to train. I takes them time to get the idea in their heads. After all she has been weeing and pooping in a nappy for 2-1/2 years. Celebrate it when she gets it right in an over the top way. This will get her on track. With my daughter we had party blowers to blow when she got to the toilet on time. She loved it and pooping got a treat too.


  • My daughter was brilliant, when it came to not wearing thru the night, potty training took a bit longer.
    We would put her on the potty, she would sit for a minute then say, “nothing there”, was quite funny!
    She soon got the potty side of it but we did have to make her sit there for a bit longer than a minute. We asked her constantly if she needed to do a wee/poo, we had a few accidents as is expected but it didn’t take long with with perseverance!
    Good luck!!!!!


  • it’s only been a week, so try not to stress too much. My son turns 3 next month and we are only just starting toilet training. We didn’t think he was ready until now, as he is finally recognising when he needs to go. He now tells us when he’s gone in his nappy – both wees and poos – so we feel a bit more confident that he is starting to understand when he needs to go. We’re going to spend 2 weeks over Christmas doing the training, with rewards for every time he goes to the toilet. All kids are different – my sister spent 6 weeks with her youngest before my niece finally started getting it right and my niece was almost 4. Good luck.


  • Should have started earlier. We started the children in our family before they turned 1 and they were trained well before the age if 2.


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