I have never been in your shoes before but i know for myself, i would not be waiting. The fact that you have already given him another chance and he hasn’t changed. I highly recommend leaving soon especially if you have the support of family. Maybe it is time to leave before your start your new career? Good luck and remember to do what is right for you and your kids, you only live once and should not be having to deal with this.

If you’re able, I would be looking to leave sooner. Once he knows you’re making moves away from him I highly doubt the situation will get better or even stay the same.
The kids will be sad, but an unhealthy environment will be worse for them in the long run.
It takes strength to lean on others and ask for help when you need it. Contact your GP and have a mental health assessment done to give you access to some free counseling sessions.
Make sure to remember that you are worthy of a happy, peaceful life surrounded by love and support, and you don’t have to settle for anything less. Imagine your future home filled with the laughter of your kids and a happy Mum. Let that help keep you going. Wishing you all the best.

If you had family willing to help last time, I’m sure the offer would still be there. They’re family. Don’t worry about pride. It sounds like it’s not a good environment for your kids either. You should also probably look at counselling.

I am also concerned about the financial abuse he has put you through. What’s to say that he won’t manipulate your wage from you?? As someone else has said, it would be wise to tackle your drinking as I also have no doubt that he’d use it against you despite his own habits! ANY abuse, whether physical, emotional, financial, etc is classed as domestic violence. Reach out to a professional in that area as they can also help you tackle your drinking issues. I suggest doing this sooner rather than later as by the time you start your new job, you will be on your own two feet and it’s onwards and upwards from here for you and your children. You may be independent, but remember, it’s still okay to ask for help ????

Professional support and advice might be a good idea.

I would seek legal advise and counseling so you can stand firm in the decision you want to make.

I’d be leaving sooner rather than later, if you still have full support of your family. You went back once because he said he’d change. He didn’t change, and you now know he isn’t going to, because he got you back without changing.

Without judgement, I’d also consider getting support to tackle any problem you may have with alcohol. Start now, before you go, get good habits in place and ask for support for that as well. If your (soon to be) ex wants, he could use any substance problems against you in family court. It sounds like he has his own substance problems, but if you tackle yours now, it’s documented that you’ve been trying to change for the better.

Go! Good luck!

If you’ve decided to leave, I’d just do it, I don’t think anyone should pretend a relationship is working if it’s not. Thats un fair on everyone. Otherwise give it a red hot crack chat out issues to fix them and make life easier

If you feel like this now 12+ months will feel like jail time. You are fed up now not in 12 months time. What happens if he decides to get violent towards you or the children? You will know when it’s the right time to leave. Don’t wait until you have the money because you won’t leave as there will be another “I will leave when moment” No-one can tell you when to leave it has to be up to you. If your friends and family will help and you really have had enough go. Next time he tries to suck you in by pretending he will change just think of the last time.

I’d suggest getting some legal advice and some help from places like orange door. If he is financially abusive, I would probably get the advice and leave. If you have a job ready and will save money along the way, I wouldn’t stick around a further 12 months, but I strongly suggest getting yourself some professional advice. Good luck