Hi all,
I have a very violent boy who is 8 years old. He is on the spectrum with other connecting disorders. His medications don’t seem to work either.
He has suffered with trauma from a father who is a yoyo in is young life. His violence is always aimed at women/females.
He continually blames me for his father not being present in his life and then the violence begins.
Does anyone else have any suggestions on ways around this please as am genuinely at the end of my tether and am sick of feeling judged.

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  • Sorry to hear that, but I want to let you know you are doing great!

    I would start with a good NDIS support plan. Have your GP/Paediatrician/schoolteachers involved and seek professional counselling/behaviour support in place.

  • I would recommend counselling for yourself and your son – alone and together. No one should be living with violence. You are both worthy of a loving relationship. A counsellor may be able to help you both heal from the trauma.

  • Really sorry to hear this. That’s really hard. I would speak to your GP about getting some professional advice on how to help.

  • I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I would be getting into Ndis and some councilling support for yourself and your son and see what they recommend

  • I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Does your work offer an employee assistance program that you can reach out to, to get some support or have someone to talk to?

  • Aw bless, what supports do you have in place ? If you haven’t already NDIS funding, I certainly would apply and ask for supporting letters of GP, Paediatrician and others involved. Once you have NDIS funding you may want to ask for behaviour support in your plan, but there are other good therapies for kids with ASD, like sensory motor therapy at Brain Train, or Autism 360™ – NDIS Approved. Also you can get support from the Autism Hub and CRU’s Families for Inclusive Education team

  • Maybe reach ou at the school or Doctors to be connected with counsellors that can help you both.

  • I’m truly sorry to hear about the challenges you’re facing. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot, and it’s understandable that you feel overwhelmed. Parenting a child with special needs and navigating the impact of trauma must be incredibly difficult. It’s important to recognize that you’re not alone in facing these struggles.

    I imagine you’re already seeing a counsellor and a pediatrician for your sons medical needs? It might be worthwhile seeing if you can book yourself into a counsellor to support you. Also, connecting with support groups for parents who have children with similar challenges might offer a sense of understanding and shared experiences. I’m not sure whether there might be some local groups in your area, or even on Facebook, etc.

    Remember, you’re doing your best in a tough situation, and it’s okay to ask for help. Taking care of yourself is crucial, so don’t hesitate to reach out to your support network and explore available resources in your community. I’m sorry you are feeling judged, and I hope you can find a solution that suits you and your son.

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