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My daughter is 4 going on 5 in 1.5 months and has been asking for a couple of months now to have her close friend over to stay one night. I think I am ok with it as they have play dates a lot but how do you approach another parents about this as our girls are still young and i wouldn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable.


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  • I can’t remember any of my children even asking for one. We always had children around our house and often for tea, but I can only remember having children sleep over because their parents were going out or one of the parents had to go to hospital. Just talk to the other parent without putting any pressure on them and see what their thoughts are,


  • I’m following as I’m also interested in this.


  • My daughter was between 5 and 6. You will find the issue a lot of the time is other parents not allowing their kids to go to a sleepover. I always told my daughter that if she wanted something organised she needed to get me the other parent’s phone number. It sounds like you may already have this, so just ask the question in a text explaining that your daughter and presuming the other child, have been asking for a sleepover.


  • Mine were a bit older then this, except for family sleepovers. I like to know the other parents beforehand


  • Depends on the family, I would have to know them. But I think we started about grade 4.
    My kids are now in high school and tend to have more people come to our house for sleep overs


  • I think I was in either grade 6 or 7 when I had my first sleep over, and I can’t say I’d be too keen on them these days as a parent. In my opinion 5 is far too young. But do what you think is best!


  • Maybe ask the parents how they feel about sleepovers to find out if they’re interested. I’ve had alot of kids getting excited talking about sleepovers with my 6 year old. Which I then completely shut down as I’m not interested at all. I think children shouldn’t be told they can have sleepovers when the parents might not like them


  • my kids has been having sleepovers with various family members since since turned 1 year. my youngest (now 3) sometimes chooses to go stay with his grandmother who lives 3 hours away for up to a week at a time. if it was with friends and I knew the parents id consider alowing it from whatever age they start primary school – provided that the child can listen/obey follow rules and instructions. i see no reason to wait if both the child and parents agree. if they get scared or dont want to stay then parents pick them up, no big deal


  • When older and only with trusted and well known friends and family.


  • I think at least 10 and only then with people I know well.


  • As an adult I don’t like the ideas of sleepovers at all. Much prefer a hang until late and would pick my kid up.


  • Approach the conversation casually and express your daughter’s enthusiasm for a sleepover. You can say something like, “Our daughter has been really excited about having her friend over for a sleepover. We think it could be a fun experience for them. What do you think? Would your daughter be interested, and do you feel comfortable with the idea?” This way, you open the door for discussion without putting any pressure on the other parent.


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