I think the most important thing is telling them you are there to listen if they want to discuss with you. At time of heartbreak people don’t want to hear your own experiences, so don’t push your past situations on them. Listen.
The best thing you can do is not offer words. Just be there for when they are ready to talk. Relationships in the teenage years are so intense and magnified and even though your heart is breaking watching them it is a lesson they will have to learn. Saying things like ‘it will get better’ etc doesn’t sink in. Just be there to comfort them and wait.
I’m interested in this but don’t have much advice! One observation is that by this stage friends are often more important than parents, so having a good peer group, and giving the teen chances to socialize more widely, is perhaps useful. (so long as the peers aren’t a source of negativity or teasing about the break up).
Also; just being there for your teen is the best thing you can do. Be there if needed; only they can make themselves happy but you can be a shoulder for support.
It probably feels like the end of the world for them right now and they may not respond to anything you say… just make sure they know you are there for them.
They will need time to process it for themselves and the best thing a parent can do is redirect them back to activities and hobbies they enjoy. The focus needs to be on themselves and the things they can do to make themselves happy without someone else.
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mom93821 said
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mom81879 said
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