No not at all you shouldn’t be made to feel like you do just explain the situation that you are keeping it because you will be having another child

If the stuff is yours, it’s up to you if you want to give it to her or not. Just because you have something doesn’t mean you have to give it to someone. Keep it for your second child! In fact, you don’t even have to tell her. Just don’t offer it to her.

I think that it is reasonable for you AND you husband to say No.

Families can be hard work sometimes. Keep your stuff, it’s yours, you are not being mean and by the sounds of it, you’ll be wanting to use it again in the future.

You are not being mean at all. You said it yourself you and your hubby worked hard for all those things you purchased. If your family are so concerned with your cousin not having certain things they can chip in themselves. Although I’m no stranger to family pressures and guilt trips, stick to your guns.. I wish you luck!!

It is not being mean,you can keep your stuff because it’s yours! You may need those items in the future and you worked hard to buy them.

I don’t think you are being mean at all. It is your choice and right to hold onto things that you worked so hard for whether you get to have a new bub straight away or not. Everyone else in the family who is of the opposite opinion should start reaching into their own pockets and supplying these expected items and I’m sure we’ll see a reduction of just what people expect her to be given. Don’t let them get them down too much and I hope it works out stress free for yourself and your husband.

Not mean at all! You worked hard for them…they are yours! People should mind their own business. Explain that you are hoping for another child and will be keeping your items. They should understand and are not really entitled to an opinion on the matter!

If you are planning on having more children down the track just explain to the family that you want to use the stuff in the future..Surely they should understand.
You are not being unreasonable at all.
Hugs..families are difficult.

As you said you worked hard to get those things, they are yours you do with them as you please. There is a lot of charity shops and markets that she could get things from.

It’s a different matter to pass on items if you are finished having children but with one child and the possibility of more, it makes complete sense to want to save your baby items for future little ones.
Best wishes and all the very best to you.

wow that is the same attitude that my sister has but thank god she has got pregnant yet

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  • • mom94125 replied
    • 02 Jun 2015 , 7:38 pm

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  *has not.

  yeah don’t feel bad.

Its your stuff and as you said you worked hard to buy it and there for you do with it what you want to do. Don’t feel pressured by family. There are plenty of charity shops, jumble sales, church, school fates around if they want to purchase 2nd hand and cheap. They should start looking here.

No i wouldnt offer my things at all, You need them and i can garentee she wont give them back undamaged . When we had our kids we purchased evreything of good quality to do or family. Now our family is complete its a different story only now will i pass them on if they are needed. Even then if they are still as good as new we will be selling them we can upgrade our childs car seat etc. People are greedy and epect to much.

No your not being mean. It’s yours and you have a right to give it away or not. Some friends kindly lent us their bassinet while in between children, we have looked after it carefully and didn’t expect such a kind gesture as it does add to the wear and tear. It may limit the use you get out of stuff for future kids even if you’re not using stuff now. Also it sounds like it’s also about the principal of the matter with your cousin expecting everyone to take care of her. It’s ok to say no just because you don’t want to… May be easy to use the excise that you want it in case you have more kids though

No, you’re not being mean. Keep them, especially if you’re hoping for another.

I don’t think you are being mean.
They are your things that you plan on using in the future

I think it’s mean that your family expects you to give your stuff away.
In my idea if you don’t want to do it, you don’t have to do it. Say clearly that you’d like to have a bigger family and you want to keep those things for yourself. If you give them to her, maybe you will never get them back. And if you do, they will be in a much worse condition. Some stuff, like clothes, will probably be completely lost.
Take a position somehow. And don’t feel guilty about it.

If you are wanting to have another child then keep your baby items. Your family cannot force you to give away your baby items. Focus on your family and they can focus on their family.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 06 Jun 2015 , 7:03 pm

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  Also; everyone is on a budget when they have children and it is quite unreasonable to expect that you would give everything away.